Should I take him back after affair whilst pregnant?

[Amicrazy17]

Hi there

Looking for some advice / stories from people in similar situations.

My husband of 5 years (8 year relationship) had an affair for nearly a year during and after my pregnancy.

When our son was 5 months old he left us (and my DD aged 3) for the other woman.

He's now been gone for 8 months and he and the affaire have now split. He said he doesn't love her and wants to come home to his family. She is pregnant and he is having nothing to do with the baby.

I miss him a lot and I am thinking of taking him back, for me but more so for our children.

Any advice?

Am I mad?

Do not take him back. He's just done to the other woman what he did to you. He clearly hasn't changed and it will only cause you heart break, not to mention to havoc it will cause for your children.

No, just no.

Come on, you know the advice you'll get here.

Unless you are some kind of masochist then run for the hills. And feel sorry for that poor baby.

I couldn't forgive that. No, I wouldn't take him back. No one would get a second chance to do that to my kids.

Fuck no. Especially since he now has two kids both of which he was willing to blow off for the sake of another relationship. Not someone I would want around my children. If you have any self respect Op, tell him to take a long walk off a short pier. Your kids don't need someone like that. Do you want your DC growing up thinking that this is what a marriage should be?

Yes you are mad for even considering it. If you take him back what stops him doing it again?

So he had an affair throughout your pregnancy and your childs first few months, left you with a tiny baby for her. I suspect that now she's pregnant and realised he's totally useless when shit gets real she's thrown him out so he wants back?

The fact he wants nothing to do with the child is even worse. He wrecked your marriage and shattered yours and the kids lives and is now doing the same thing to her. He is not a good husband or father.

Stay rid is my advice. Taking him back won't end well

Even if you could forgive the affair - and god knows how you would - hoe on earth could you tolerate him not having anything to do with his new baby

No.
You will kick yourself when he does it again. Which of course he will.
Surely once was bad enough.
Focus on finding someone who values and respects you. You can do waaaaaaay better than this tosser.

Good grief no! 2 women he got pregnant and wants to abandon!

He deceived you by having an affair, then left you and your children for her. He's now leaving her and their unborn child in the hope of you taking him back. Who'll be next, I wonder?

Can you honestly say you'll be happy with this situation and the fact that he's going to deny his child?

You're going through a lot. It must be very hard for you.

He is an utterly heartless tosspot who has ditched not one, but two families. Tell him to sling his fucking hook - this will not end well

Before even reading anything other than the title I can categorically say -no!

Sorry op

Don't do it. How can you be with a man who can easily abandon you, your children and his unborn child. FOR THE SAKE of your children, do not take him back.

He is despicable

He really doesn't like pregnant women does he?
Do you really have to ask? Don't do it to yourself and your kids, just don't.

Don't even think about it. It is incredibly difficult to rebuild a relationship after an affair. It is pretty much impossible where the OW is pregnant as you can't cut contact. Please don't put your kids through the false hope that everything is going to be like is was before. Don't put yourself through it either. I imagine that after 8 months you have started to build a life for yourself away from him. If you take him back you'll be back at square one when it all implodes again, which it will.

Jesus no.

I wouldn't. What happens in another few months when he decides that you're the enemy and he wants to go back to the OW (or another woman entirely). He has showed you what he is capable of, learn from it.

Absolutely no way. Just look at the facts.

He had an affair;
He left you with a young baby;
He's now leaving his pregnant girlfriend;
He says he's having nothing to do with HIS baby.

Awful man.

I predict he intends to constantly playing you and OW off against each other and have numerous other encounters aswell when you are both preoccupied raising his offspring.
Don't let him con you into believing it will be any different this time.

You would be a fool if you did

I suspect you will though

If you are even considering it you need your bumps felt

Absofuckinglutley not. He is a dickwad of the highest order, do yourself and your children a favour and get rid.

You and your kids deserve so much more than a person who clearly cares only about himself.

Are you insane??????