Just looking for some advice really...
Ive finally left narcissistic husband a week ago after more than a decade together. I'd put up with EA of me and our children, excess drinking, drug taking, pathological lying, gaslighting, staying out over night regularly, and then recently I found evidence of using prostitutes. This he denies but hard to tell what's a lie and what's the truth.
It finally dawned on me that there's no winner if I stay, despite all his pleas to change and telling me I'm exaggerating. I know the kids will be the losers and i dont want us to be living a half life any more. So I've decided to rescue myself and kicked him out. Feel my head is finally able to focus on the kids' long term MH without him able to sway me.
I've been doing really well and was feeling strong. Have had a lovely day with the kids and cooked us a lovely dinner to enjoy in the garden as per their request. Then the door bell goes. I answer and it's him. I had to remove safety chain to speak to him. And he demands to be let in.
Once inside he announces he's staying here the night as got no where else to go. Told him not my problem and asked him to leave. He does but takes my car! Comes back with beers. Then waltzed into the garden where me and kids are having out dinner to order a pizza in front of them!
He's now upstairs in my bedroom with his poxy pizza watching football!! He has announced that he'll be staying here when I go away for a few days this week.
I want to scream!!!! Hes just told me to get off my phone and look after our children!!! What should I do...really thought I'd done it and he'd finally bloody gone.