Partner slept in bed with another woman

[Goodgonegirl]

Don't even know how to explain this - apparently on a group night with work friends out my partner (we don't live together) walked home with a female colleague who fancies him, he let her in - they were very drunk, she came in with him, he thought she would sleep on sofa but she got into bed with him.

He was apparently too tired to argue so let her sleep in the bed. Nothing happened, or so he says. He didn't tell me this for six months.

Would you believe nothing happened? Could you continue the relationship? I just don't know what to do.

I wouldn't believe it personally

Why is it telling you now?!

How is the relationship otherwise - go with your gut.

No, I wouldn't believe him. Personally I wouldn't continue the relationship.

He could have got out of the bed though couldn't he? Slept on the sofa?

Oh dear no im sorry i think he slept with her ...why is telling you now.

Imperial...that is my thought..we are currently in a long distance relationship which he finds particularly difficult. We have been together for six years though which is why the decision is so hard.

6 years and long distance - I'm inclined to say finish it over that alone. If you love someone you move closer to them in six years not still be living apart.

Sorry.

Hmmm. I've slept in a bed with a male friend (& someone I fancied) and nothing happened. We slept.

I wouldn't believe him.

Liar liar pants on fire ......
why is he telling you this now?

Yes, why is he telling you now?

Good question. I don't know, he hasn't explained this. To clarify, we were living in the same town when we met, but I moved away 18 months ago to be closer to family as he didn't seem committed. Now he seems keener, but I am not sure, especially after this revelation.

Utter bollocks

I reckon someone's threatened to tell you and he's trying to pre empt.

You need to ask him this question then op

Birds - that would be my thinking too

And she might tell you she's six months pregnant

Hmm could go either way. Why has he mentioned it now.
In fairness on group
Holidays and big nights out I've shared beds with friends of both sexes. Nothing has happened, different though I suppose as my partner wound know more or less
Straight away...

I agree with a PP I think he's told you because it might come out and he's getting his side (which could be untrue) out first.

I was in a long distance relationship. We moved closer together after a year and a half. Sorry if it sounds mean but I don't think this is going to go all that far if after 6 years you are still far apart. How far is long distance? Ours was nearly 300 miles.

I think his general lack of action around you, makes this even dodgier

IDK. That doesn't ring true to me. I've shared a bed before with my male friend and nothing whatsoever happened. Both my partner and his are aware of it (his DP put a photo on facebook, the bastard!) and that there is nothing romantic between us. We have been close friends since college though and are no strangers to the post bender cuddle pile. You know your DP and whether he is the type to do this and only you know if you believe him or not. It doesn't sound right to me though. Too much justifying going on there and why didn't he mention it at the time.

What a load of bollox.

This is no sort of relationship. Cut your losses.

So how did this come up now?

Imperial..he sat me down and told me. Guess he was feeling guilty.

I would be preparing myself for more to come out.
Does he still work with her?