Has anyone dated when they are fat?

[SilverdaleGlen]

My last "date" was when I was a 18yo bitty, with a body I hated and would now kill for.

Kids and divorce later and I'm fat, size 16-18 with large boobs that head southwards, all weight on tummy and thighs. I can look good dressed, I have the chat, I have a handsome (wouldn't say pretty!) face but if I got undressed it all goes horribly wrong.

Someone want a date from an online app, what if they turn around and go "fuck me Jabba" and run?

So anyone been fat and still dated! How do you get past having an old lady body. I will join the gym but I'm not expecting miracles. Am I doomed?

I love your post im in exactly the same position! Except you sound more confident. Thats the key I think.
I have no willpower to diet but cannot imagine dating anyone size 18. I just can't hold my head high
Go for it & Good luck!

If you think a slim body is important, and work on yours and want a potential sports partner, that's absolutely fine. It's your preference.

But saying that big people should make sure to contact other big people is silly. Firstly, lots of big men do NOT like big women. I've met them, proudly telling me how they like me as I am slim and they hate fatties, as if I am supposed to be impressed. Secondly, what about the slim men who do like big women? Do they not get a look in?

A portential sports partner? That's extremely patronising and unpleasant.

A fat person isnt looking for an over-eating partner if they date another fat person.

Eh, why is it patronising to say that you might want your partner to do sports with you? I look for people who have mildly similar interests. The poster above said that she looks after her body and wants someone who does, too. I presumed she was referring to sports.

I'm a 20-24 (pear shaped) and not only dated, but actually got married whilst fat. My husband calls my fat bits my 'soft bits' and actually seems to like the squidge. I'm also pug ugly, so if I can find someone to have me, you definitely can.

What's it got to do with sports? I'm active and I don't over eat but that's not an interest, it's just a default.

If somebody came on here and said well fat people have the shared interest of over eating there'd be outrage, rightly.

My DP is a tub and was when I met him. At first I thought Ugh! No way! but you soon get past that. It's personality that counts.

It wasn't me who said it was about sports, maybe ask Girlywurly? I was talking about her preferences, not about those of fat or thin people.

I met my DH online. I am am size 18. He loves my body and quite frankly can't get enough of it. So yes it is possible!

The better you feel about yourself, the more confident you'll be about sharing it with others