Is a man 'always' lying when he says he doesn't have sex with his wife?

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I've recently found out that a married male colleague I work with is having sex with another woman. Now, I get on very well with this male colleague and we are friends. since I've found out he insists that, although he loves his wife, he doesn't have sex with her because 'it doesn't work' with her. Now, obviously, this sound like BS but I've barely met his wife and have no inclination to get involved so it's not as if he's worried that I'm going to tell his wife or anyone else.

I'm really disappointed in my friend and I'll never look at him the same way, but is it always a lie when men say they don't have sex with their wives or could he possibly be telling the truth? I'm not suggesting that would excuse him being unfaithful, but I know I would have difficulty being in a sexless relationship.

ordinaryman You do know that a woman has to feel confident in herself to feel sexy and want sex dont you.

If you have been criticising her or showing an attitude for something thats perfectly natural that will affect her confidence.

ordinaryman your posts on MN generally lead me to think that your DW does not like you. I can quite believe that you are telling the truth about your situation, and as a woman I certainly would not want to have sex in those circumstances either.

OP - I think he's being truthful, probably. It's by no means uncommon.

It's odd that he discusses this with a colleague though, unless you are very close platonic friends as well as coworkers.

banana i would have trouble liking someone who made me feel like crap for not trimming my pubic hair.

How the hell is the DW supposed to feel confident enough to have sex under those circumstances.

To clarify some more points, colleague and his wife are in their early thirties with no kids. The only reason he has discussed this with me is because I found out he was cheating and he was 'explaining' why.
Anyway, my friendship with this guy isn't the same as it was, I just can't look at him the same way. I came across this today, and it made me think of this situation and reminded me if this thread... Madonna-whore complex