The stinginess is bad enough. For me it would be the greed and selfishness too i.e. he guzzled a whole cheesecake and sponge cake to himself. Whilst remarking, 'you're rich, eh ?'
Erm, which means what, exactly ?
I suppose matching his stinginess so that he doesn't get to freeload off of you won't work. It just means the message has got through and he's won.
Next time you make a meal for him (if you're still being a mug) put it in front of him and declare the cost of it and break it down by cost of ingredients. The cost of gas or electric etc plus your time to cook. Then say, 'you wouldn't get it for that in a restaurant.'
Btw, there is no level of embarrassment that his stinginess won't stoop to. He's already there with the stale bread incident (which sounds compulsive to me.) What's next, getting other people's left overs in public ? Bin diving ? Skip diving ? Bargaining in a charity shop ? Slamming the door in the face of a kid wanting sponsor money ?
I realize you are avoiding him right now, but you could put give some money to charity and see whether he sighs or glares at you.
It's not about the money. It's never about the money. As another poster has remarked it's pretty much OCD - a form of mental illness.
(BTW - remark to a PP why is drinking orange juice wasting it ? I realize he was being stingy but if giving it to you meant wasting it then I'm not surprised you ended it with him. The mix of orange juice, fizzy water and tap water sounds grim.) I once went on holiday with a now ex-boyfriend years ago who helped himself to my sun cream declaring that it was expensive. Which is was why he was using mine !
I know someone who has always been stingy i.e. was the last in his circle to get a driving license so he didn't have to buy a car. Even then he would drive all over town looking for the cheapest petrol, even by one penny. He asked a taxi driver in a third world country they were visiting what the minimum wage was.
At one stage, he owned two houses. I think he also had half a million pounds saved. Him and his wife were determined to pay their mortgage off so lived on yoghurt for a few years. Or something like that. When their mortgage was finished, they could then play the property game.
Well, ok good. They sold one house, moved into the other with their kids. Invested the proceeds of sale and savings, about half a million. Still with me ?
Turns out the other house which they moved into (which they had paid to have built) was substandard construction. The house is a money pit. They've had to sell their investments to make it habitable.
If they sold it today, they would maybe get today's value but that's about it. So despite their penny pinching ways, they've ended up with not very much really.
That's just penny pinching. It's not money management.
People who really are that mean, have something of a grudge against the world. I don't understand their, 'you won't get me' attitude about rip them off before they rip you off.