Hi just wanted to moan and also ask if i have a right to put my foot down/be unhappy about this? I love my fiances family and enjoy spending time with them.
After we got together his sister started dating one of his friends so now whenever we meet up with his friends she is there which is fine as they are a couple (they met as my fiance invited her out with him), both of them like to include their parents in everything also their parents invite themselves to things.
Some examples of this include my fiances friends 30th birthday meal (no other parents were going) , a camping weekend (where i would have felt like i'd tagged along on a family holiday as his sister was already coming rather than it being my idea), a holiday abroad which was my children's first holiday with us as a family and most recently drinks at our house which is for friends and i want to get to know them better, this is what has brought me here.
my children are away so wanted to let my hair down (his sister will be coming as she is part of the group of friends and that is accepted obviously and i have no problem with that). We discussed inviting his parents before hand but as mine are away with my children decided not too so we could have time with friends, they have now invited themselves and rather than him say no its just our friends he says yeah we were going to invite you anyway!
We see his family regularly and as i mentioned i really like spending time with them but would like time with just friends occasionally. If it was a special occasion with other family then i wouldnt mind them coming but it isnt its just a gathering of friends coming for drinks.
Am i wrong to feel like this? how do i go about stopping it happening? Im not sure why i have a problem with it so any insight is great. is it because i feel like an outsider tagging along with his family?
Thanks