'I'm not getting any younger and neither are you'

[LottieandMia]

So said a man I've been dating.

I'm 36 - I don't want any more children at all. This man is my age and apparently he wants another child before he's 40. This is a thing he has stuck in his mind.

AIBU to think this is a really rude thing to say. I already have 3 children and my youngest is 8. I am just at a point where I can get my career back as dd1 is starting residential school and he wants me to go back to square 1!

Having a child has far more impact on the mother than the father of the child usually.

It's the sort of thing you might say if neither of you had ever been married at all and didn't have children.

OP, it's more the kind of thing you say if you're a controlling arse, actually!

'I don't agree so even though it's a massive decision which affects you much more than me, my plan isn't to accept what you say but try my hardest to manipulate you to my way of thinking'.

Another thing he said on the latest date is that he feels his ex wife was entirely to blame for them breaking up. It's never entirely one persons fault!

Sounds a bit of a tit, but that's not your problem.

He sounds an arse. Get rid and give him no further thought.

That's another red flag - blaming he Ex. (If your Ex was a complete bastard you are still unlikely to blame him entirely, more likely to wonder how you were taken in).

Mentioning you would like children/more children is okay. Pressurising someone because "you are running out of time" is entirely different.

This pillock doesn't deserve the time of day from you

Move on

Yet another red flag. He doesn't even have enough sense, so early in a new relationship, not to say shit that reveals he's a twat.

OP, you clearly don't like him (understandably) and you said explicitly you're happy on your own. You know what you have to do.