'I'm not getting any younger and neither are you'

[LottieandMia]

So said a man I've been dating.

I'm 36 - I don't want any more children at all. This man is my age and apparently he wants another child before he's 40. This is a thing he has stuck in his mind.

AIBU to think this is a really rude thing to say. I already have 3 children and my youngest is 8. I am just at a point where I can get my career back as dd1 is starting residential school and he wants me to go back to square 1!

[LottieandMia]

Having a child has far more impact on the mother than the father of the child usually.

[LottieandMia]

It's the sort of thing you might say if neither of you had ever been married at all and didn't have children.

[FizzyGreenWater]

OP, it's more the kind of thing you say if you're a controlling arse, actually!

'I don't agree so even though it's a massive decision which affects you much more than me, my plan isn't to accept what you say but try my hardest to manipulate you to my way of thinking'.

[LottieandMia]

Another thing he said on the latest date is that he feels his ex wife was entirely to blame for them breaking up. It's never entirely one persons fault!

[ravenmum]

Sounds a bit of a tit, but that's not your problem.

[category12]

He sounds an arse. Get rid and give him no further thought.

[mummytime]

That's another red flag - blaming he Ex. (If your Ex was a complete bastard you are still unlikely to blame him entirely, more likely to wonder how you were taken in).

Mentioning you would like children/more children is okay. Pressurising someone because "you are running out of time" is entirely different.

[AnyFucker]

This pillock doesn't deserve the time of day from you

Move on

[Loopytiles]

Yet another red flag. He doesn't even have enough sense, so early in a new relationship, not to say shit that reveals he's a twat.

[PoorYorick]

OP, you clearly don't like him (understandably) and you said explicitly you're happy on your own. You know what you have to do.