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DP just told me to fuck off...

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Deirdresbelts · 29/05/2017 11:02

In front of DS, because DP left a glass in the living room for four days. He finally noticed it this morning, asked if it was his or mine, told him it was his because I'd put mine away the other night to which he replied "So that's been lying there for four days?" I answered "Aye, I don't know why you didn't move it". His answer was "Why didn't you move it?" I replied that I was here to tidy up after myself and DS, not DP. That's when he told me to fuck off.

I came upstairs (was coming up anyway). He shouted at me that he'd remember that when he's cooking dinner tonight (actually I'd planned to have something different to him tonight anyway so makes no difference to me, plus I'm relapsing into anorexia so any excuse not to eat is great) and slammed the door. A second later DS came up crying telling me that his dad had slammed the door and he's frightened. All because a grown man won't tidy up after himself.

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HardcoreLadyType · 29/05/2017 21:04

So, he wasn't happy to clear away what he "thought" might have been your glass, but he thought you should have been happy to clear away his?

That's a bit of a double standard.

Justbreathing · 29/05/2017 21:05

Seems like the tip of the iceberg
Most normal healthy relationships don't end up like this.
I've left glasses, they've left glasses, we all pick up as we go
I think the point is it's not about the glasses

Deirdresbelts · 29/05/2017 21:56

Largely our relationship is good. A bugbear is that he tends to pretend disputes haven't happened at all rather than discuss them but aside from that and this ongoing thing about him not clearing up after himself, things are good. Oh and of course when he flies off the handle he doesn't restrain himself in front of DS.

No, no treatment for the anorexia. When I was at my lowest weight I avoided all discussion of it and when I finally did discuss it with a GP I was almost back at a healthy BMI (even though in the same month another GP examining a breast lump commented on my lack of subcutaneous fat) so was summarily dismissed. I have other mental issues (afraid I'll be accused of drip feeding now even though the other mental health issues are fuck all to do with the issues raised in the OP!) which preclude me from getting more help for the anorexia.

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Deirdresbelts · 29/05/2017 22:10

Aaand as I suspected, he is now talking to me with no mention of anything from today.

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Deirdresbelts · 29/05/2017 22:11

Should've said predicted, not suspected.

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