Separating, and chatting with old flame

[PinkGlitter17]

I have this old flame who was a Friend With Benefits. This was before I even met STBXH. He lives in Switzerland now, and we got back in touch recently on Facebook messenger.
When we were seeing each other, the sex was great. STBXH and I have not had sex in a year, and the spontaneity and lustfulness of the fling I had with FWB is messing with my mind a bit! I want to get on a plane and go over there and jump him. I have been having dreams about it. When I think about it, I get so turned on. On one occasion, he came round to my student house to see me one night, and was so horny that he ripped his shirt in the hurry to get naked. It's a proud memory of mine! And I did really, really like him.

I've told this friend that my marriage is breaking down, and he hasn't replied. He doesn't use Facebook etc much anyway. I just told him by way of conversation, no hidden agenda, just in a 'catching up'/what's new with you' sort of way.

I think the point of my post is to ask whether you think I'm being out-of-order having this little sex fantasy about this old fwb. We might never meet again. I do sometimes feel like I'm hiding a lot of lust behind my platonic chats, but my marriage is over and so I don't feel like it's emotional infidelity.
Or perhaps I'm just v sexually frustrated and thinking back on the ravishing sex.
What do you reckon?

Pink!
You are doing great. Of course it's tough after the long marriage.
And - there is no rush.
I second Suite's yey for libido and kissing someone. Best thing you can do for your self confidence.

A good friend of mine just started dating after difficult divorce and years of EA.
Luckilly - an Ex ( from uni time) popped up in her life - and, despite being quite cautious - and with some encouragement from a friend 😂 - she let her hair down.
And also, i kept nagging her to sign up for OLD - and men just kept writing to her.
It's been the best confidence boost she could have wished for.
There is no happy ending there as of yet - she is still at the 'frog' stage. But - much happier and more confident!!!!

So - enjoy your bantering with your friend! Don't worry too much.
Flirt if you want to - he won't run away. As i said - men like their ego stricken. If you do it in a jocking way - he won't mind...
Also - men like talking about themselves - so keep talking. Maybe you'll get to a point where that 50% may in fact be realised....

But, on the other note - Exes are always great for a little confidence boost - scratch around! There might be more out there.