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Dh has signed us up to join a nudist club

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User3459845987 · 14/05/2017 08:55

Now what? I'm & at this. I feel uncomfortable but he's persuaded me it'll be great fun and liberating. They have many group activities which I imagine will induce lots of jiggling of body parts. I have an uneasy feeling he's attracted by the prospect of 'innocently' noticing firmer, more nubile bodies than mine. (4 kids later) Wwyd?

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strikhedonia · 14/05/2017 09:38

After seeing some of the nudist beaches, I would stay well away from anything like that. If your DH wants to join a club, why shouldn't he? I would just let him go alone. Being aware of the flaws of "natural" bodies doesn't mean I have to see them, I'd rather stick to beautiful fake humans in magazines. (I don't mean that in a sexual way!)

ComtesseDeSpair · 14/05/2017 09:39

My parents accidentally found themselves on a nudist beach whilst on holiday last year. They stayed after realising their error (kept clothes on, though), because they'd already unpacked their picnic and windbreaker etc, but my mum can report a dearth of firm and nubile bodies.

The above isn't the point though, really. If you're not comfortable with the idea, don't do it. If you're open to it, go along but don't allow your OH to put you under any pressure: when you say you want to leave, it's time to leave.

Loyly · 14/05/2017 09:40

at 'Buttlins'

scootinFun · 14/05/2017 09:41

Have you asked him about this sudden passion to freeze his bollocks off in England? I was forced to go to nudist beaches as a child - I hated it. Loads of men very few women

morningconstitutional2017 · 14/05/2017 09:41

I've always been puzzled and fascinated by nudists and have seen them on the telly. Most of them (like me) have bodies which would be better off well hidden by clothing. They mostly seem to be elderly folk with lots of wobbly bits and white body hair. Does he really want to drool over that?

Also on one of these a chap at long last admitted that there is a sexual element which had formerly been denied - as I suspected all along. And what of the children of these nudists? I wonder if many of them grow up and leave their parents behind to enjoy this 'hobby' without them.

MrsGuyOfGisbo · 14/05/2017 09:41

*They stayed after realising their error (kept clothes on, though), because they'd already unpacked their picnic and windbreaker etc^
love that Britishness!!!

TheNaze73 · 14/05/2017 09:43

I think it's a great idea, the uk can be so repressed.

If you're unhappy though, tell him. You might not want to go but, he'll want to stick it out a bit longer

Elendon · 14/05/2017 09:46

I bet he will be wearing a t shirt over his torso whilst letting the rest all hang out. And suggesting you get bicycles as well to get from A to B.

Seeing people shopping nude in a supermarket is an experience I will never forget.

Smeaton · 14/05/2017 09:46

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Motoko · 14/05/2017 09:48

It's not on that he signed you up. If you feel uncomfortable about it, don't go. Don't let him coerce you into doing something you feel uncomfortable about, especially as it means being naked in front of strangers. You should only do that if you're comfortable in your own body and aren't bothered about other people seeing it.

And as others have said, they're mostly full of wrinkly, flabby older people, so it's unlikely to fulfil his fantasies!

Elendon · 14/05/2017 09:49

he'll want to stick it out a bit longer Yuck!

MissWilmottsGhost · 14/05/2017 09:50

I can't see the appeal of nudism in the UK, I would be bloody freezing.

Sparklingbrook · 14/05/2017 09:51

Tell him to go if he wants but you will not be joining him.
Yuk.

Motoko · 14/05/2017 09:53

I think it's a great idea, the uk can be so repressed.

The UK is also fucking freezing a lot of the time!

PacificDogwod · 14/05/2017 09:54

I can't see the appeal of nudism in the UK, I would be bloody freezing.

Yep.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 14/05/2017 09:57

I never realised you signed up for nudism. The one in Brighton you just rock up and strip off

FairNotFair · 14/05/2017 09:58

icanteven · 14/05/2017 09:59

Hah! We go to a lot of nudist or semi-nude beaches in Greece (it just so happens that our favourite beaches for swimming and snorkelling are on the bit favourite by naked Germans). The vast majority of the naked people are in their 60's and 70's and overweight, with a smattering of younger couples. The only naked people there alone are older men.

Unless your DH has a specific interest in comfortably rounded out women twice his age, you're probably going to be fine.

Tell him to come to Greece! It's definitely much warmer being naked there, and swimming naked is really nice.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 14/05/2017 10:04

As an aside, i know someone who was picking up mail from her old house, much older couple, she said the walls were rammed with pictures of them and their friends on nudist holidays. She was a little non plussed.

SoupDragon · 14/05/2017 10:06

There'll be a load of bollocks, will he enjoy those too?

I can't believe anyone would do this if they are not absolutely confmortable with the whole idea.

CatThiefKeith · 14/05/2017 10:09

He's going to be in for a nasty shock if he's hoping for firm young bodies.

I went to cap d'adge once, without realising it was a nudist town. As a pp said, people bending over to inspect the veg in the supermarket is not a sight I will forget and it was 20 years ago!

Serialweightwatcher · 14/05/2017 10:11

I hope he ends up going on a day where the elderly men are out in force with their doofas swinging in the wind

rookiemere · 14/05/2017 10:12

He's not persuaded you at all OP. You clearly don't want to go. I'd hate it too. I wasn't averse to being topless when I was in my 20s but now I'm in my 40s then I enjoy the benefits of a well constructed bikini.

Being naked is fine if it's something you want to do, but equally if you don't then you don't.

I guess as it's a club, he hasn't committed you to a fortnight long clothes free holiday, therefore can you go for a weekend and see how you feel about it then on the understanding that if you still feel uncomfortable about it you don't have to go again.

WateryTart · 14/05/2017 10:15

Just say you aren't going and don't allow him to bully you. He's a prick, but you must know that already.

Elendon · 14/05/2017 10:19

Cath

I went to cap d'adge once, without realising it was a nudist town. As a pp said, people bending over to inspect the veg in the supermarket is not a sight I will forget and it was 20 years ago!

It was indeed this town!

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