I had a very brief but intense relationship with a much younger man ten years ago. It ended horribly when he dropped me like a stone and then proceeded to blow hot and cold on me for a few months until completely ignoring me.
He popped back up a while later to apologise for his behaviour and that was that.
It's now ten years later, I am married with children and he, as far as I'm aware, is single. He has now messaged me to ask how I am, whether I think about what could have been etc. It's taken me completely by surprise and I'm completely bewildered. I would still love an explanation as to why he behaved the way he did, and whether any of his feelings were genuine. But i know I will never get one. And I certainly would never want to rekindle anything.
But it has got me wondering why men do this? Are they genuinely remorseful and full of regret, or do they really just get their kicks this way?
This is not the first time I've had an ex pop up. Always after a bad breakup, but never after this long.