Will try to keep it brief. Married 3 years, together 9. Have a beautiful ds age 2. Husband is quite successful but has always been of the work hard play hard mentality. It took him a long time to realise you can't continue a party lifestyle with kids. He was drinking heavily up until this year, but certain things happened (sleep walking, urinating when drunk, turning up drunk to family meals) and he's tried to curb it. He gave up for 3 weeks earlier this year, it was the best 3 weeks we've ever had.
But he is now drinking every weekend again, though he's stopped during the week. He's very grumpy when hungover. He hates if I question him about the amout he drank the night before etc or mention things he did when drunk. He has now began to say I am controlling and a bully. I'm so confused I don't even know, maybe he's right? He says he can't continue being married to someone who questions him all the time, he's entitled to a drink.
He was so angry when I tried to sort things yesterday he broke the front door slamming it behind me. My son and I are staying at my parents since yesterday. I went to our house this morning, he hasn't gone to work. Our son could sense the tension and was crying. At this point I broke and began to cry to. He has now text and said let's move on and forget this. I replied I can't unless I know drink won't be an issue anymore. He has replied fair enough. I've been here with him so many times, he's refusing counselling so we never truly seem to get to the bottom of it. He's a great father, our son adores him. We are about to move into our dream house, we are going on holiday next week. I just don't know what to do anymore. I think I still love him, but I'm exhausted. He has the potential to be an amazing man, but drink and how it affects his mood is ruining us. Anyone been through similar?