do you do EVERYTHING in front of your dh/dp? no feminine mystic?

[BarbieLovesKen]

Its probably a ridiculous question but was just wondering if we are maybe a little too comfortable in front of eachother.

I do everything in front of dp - some of this is really embarrasing/ disgusting but: have a wee, squeeze a spot, scratch my bum..(why again am I sharing this?..)wear horrible Bridget Jones knickers etc... some even more disgusting but not saying. So thought is every couple like this after so long? would it not be so lovely to retain some of that feminine mystic you have at the beginning of relationship? that possible you dont seem as attractive to eachother...

I know that I may not find dp as gorgeous as I did at the beginning - when I watch him pick his nose (and not care that im looking) or when he doesnt bother to lock the bathroom door cos he doesnt care if I walk in on him having a poo...

this does'nt make me want to pounce on him...
im annoyed with myself for not keeping up the bit of mystery - Ive heard of women only wearing pretty underware in front of their men, locking bathroom door incase he comes in to see her in that unappealing position, waxing her bikini line while to be honest, I dont care if he does!!...just very comfortable around each other.

sometimes I think it would have been nice though... has anyone done this?

lol, Iota.. we don't need to do it at the same time, I guess we just don't respeect each other enough to wait lol

alibag, lol my ds constantly are in with me or walking in, and well, they have then no choice but to watch a tampon change, since I seem to have a period one week on one week off ...grrrrrrrr

Don't wee or poo in front of DH (the children now that's another matter), however whilst giving birth to DD, DH announced in a rather loud voice 'you've just poo'd yourself' thanks mate.

Would shave anything though. Wouldn't change a mooncup.

Wnagle 99 you've just made me laugh so much I can hardly swallow my grapefruit juice! this thread has put me off my bran flakes though!My DH makes oblique references to me pooing myself in labour too in the water pool - hence his refusal to get in with me next time! Otherwise we keep pooing private.

never ever ever wee or poo in front of him. dont mind him weeing in front of me- but watch him poo? god yuk no thanks! its bad enough having to endure the stench when he comes out of the bathroom. i smell of roses obviously . occasionally have to wee when he might be in the bath but i make him shut his eyes and hum which he finds ridiculous but humours me nonetheless.
he is horrified by me farting so anything else might just tip him over the edge.

Everything and him me! After childbirth their is no point in dignity you have none left anyway

we don't poo in front of each other but nothing else is private

Summerfruit --- yep!! we do! lol (wouldnt ya know?!)

So, Alibag, do you think it is possible to get it back? I mean, since its all been done anyway? I think id like to start being a bit more mysterious but at this stage, is there any point...

I even had dh inspect my post birth haemorroid!

lol winniepoo!! but sure, why wouldnt you!

now, my haemorroid I saved for the doctor.... though after attending 2 births & midwives discussing 'no, that bit's supposed to go there' when they were stitching me up, it probably wouldn't have phased DH. As for regaining the mystery i suppose the first step is to start shutting the bathroom door! Then maybe I'll ditch the utility underwear and graduate to coordinated ensembles....

now that I see have a little (very little admittedly) support for my tampon comment I will now confess that not only does dp occasionally remove my tampon as a prelude to sex, if he wants sex and I tell him I have my period, he grins like a schoolboy and says, 'can I take it out?'

Never poo in front of him though, that would be DISGUSTING

skidaddle - have had the tampon taking out thing with both my partners!! gross i know, my ex used to stick it in an old empty coke can that would be lying around in his student bedroom (years ago, you understand!)rather than flush it down a loo

have not read entire thread, but I must say this:
When dp had seen your perineum, cut and your dd vacuumed out, then cleaned your fanjo when you are numb due to epidural and the fucking nurses have no time to clean you. Believe me you will share anything with them.

post birth when I was healing from infection in my perineum, following episiotomy, dp had to check everyday if it was healing cos I was terrified to look. He described it as a cauliflower!!!

Now I do not give a crap what he sees!

Barbie, I am with you all the way x

fc, coke can sounds quite tidy, my dp just flings it on the floor

My DP thinks I don't poo, or fart, cos I told him real ladies don't, it all just gets reabsorbed and vaporises .
I only ever had problems maintaining this post c-section, when my "offerings" were the size of a baby and wouldn't pass through the ridiculously small hole in my toilet. At the time I blamed it on the cat, but am not sure if I was believed.

I don't let him see me squeezing spots or plucking hairs out of my chin, but I do his. As for tampons, he will tug at the "mouse's tail" as a preclude to sex, but I go and take it out myself in the loo as otherwise he'd fling it any old where and one of the cats would probably end up playing with it.

Thanks for all your replies! - dont feel as bad now and had a good laugh at some of the answers here along the way!!