Why do I feel so much pain at my daughter's break-up?

[Peace47]

Wow I never thought I'd be so hurt and upset by my 24 year old daughter's break-up from her two year relationship with her boyfriend, but I am. The break-up was so out of the blue and she is in such a state. He says he loves her but needs to let her go because he can't promise marriage and kids, as he doesn't know whether he wants that in the future, and he knows that she does - he's only 27! My heart hurts so much for her and it's crazy but I feel like I'm the one who has been let go. I know I'm menopausal but this pain for their break up is unbearable. We let him into our lives for 2 years and he was unlike other previous boyfriends - we, but more to the fact she, thought he was 'the one' for her. Has anyone else felt like this?

It was 5 years ago, I'd hope they were all over it by now.

I hope you are lifting your daughter up with the reality of what this really is - a man who was wrong for her who she shouldn’t be with anyway.

What’s ‘only’ 27 got to do with anything? If he didn’t see a future with her after 2 years in his late twenties then he absolutely made the right decision to break up with her.

@JorisBonson

It was 5 years ago, I'd hope they were all over it by now.

Very helpful contribution. Of course they are over it by now but threads like this can be helpful to others that come across it at a time when they are struggling so it's not just about the original poster.

Can I ask how long it took for things to start feeling better? We are in a similar situation with our daughter’s ex. She broke up with him last month. We are very close with him and had been assisting with so many things in his life (food, clothing, a phone, helping with so many things like parents would).

How king did it take for you to heal? How long for your daughter?