My kids' father, who I kicked out 2 weeks ago, is a liar.

[colditz]

It the minute, he claims to miss me, to want to be with me, but I have found our that last week he texted a mate asking him "If you see colditz and she asks where I was, tell her I was at yours"

he claims he "Doesn't remember" and also that he went to a different friend's house and "You would have had a paddy"

i don't give a shit where he goes at the minute.

WHY FFS WHY is he still telling me lies? I have got to the point of throwing him out, and STILL he is trying to deceive me!

I don't know what to do, I'm so fucking miserable that he is making no effort

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Thats stupid. Dont know what else to say.

he is a twat
he is a twat he is a twat.

there is no hope of reconciliation with this man

I have gone as far as i can go to show him it is unacceptable to treat me like this

And he has carried on.

I strongly suspect that behind his weeping and wailing about how awful it is to be apart form us, he is thoroughly enjoying himself.

Oh, and I found out he activated a Flirtbox account in december

hmm do not take him back

Sorry Colditz, what a twat, you're right.

Fuck sake, bet you're glad now you kicked him out. Arsehole.

Why the flirtbox?? arsehole!!

is he very gorgeous or something?
and what is a flirtbox account?

His bad attitude has crept up on me, so insiduously I didn't really notice

but at least since the councelling I know he is wrong, and I'm NOT being a bitch by not allowing him to squander his life with me and the kids in tow.

Now he is free to squander his life as he pleases.

flirtbox is this dating site thing

first he denied he had ever opened one

then he said it was to 'meet friends' (well that's funny, you didn't tick the friendship box, you ticked the 'no strings fun' box)

Then he says he doesn't remember doing it

then he said "It was ages ago"

Oh fuck off you lying fudgerutter.

Fudgerutter? How does he explain himself? Is it worth trying to repair this with him?

He says He knows I don't like this particular mate

that's why he lied and said he was at other mate's house

I think t5his itself is a lie

Pathetic really

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he may be telling lies because if he tells you the truth you will be even more angry

Some men tell lies because they think it is easier than telling the truth.

These men should be avoided and shunned at all costs.

You did the right thing by chucking the fudgerutter out and you WILL get over him and find someone who deserves you.

In the meantime, do not believe ANYTHING he says, if he tells you it's raining, look out of the window.

Budgie, if the truth would make me more angry than I am now, then it must be bloody bad

Colditz. I'm sorry.

colditz, so sorry to hear this. Total lack of respect for you isn't it?

I've told him if I hear one more lie from him, he will never be moving back in here, and I will start looking for another boyfriend.

we'll see.

he has admitted he still smokes occasionally

That's what makes me really cross. I am far crosser with him for lying about Flirtbox than I was with him for signing up to it. I KNOW he wasn't doing anything, I broke into the account and looked, it's never had any activity since the day he signed up!

colditz - I hope you can get through this, but I think you need to ask yourself: will you ever be able to believe him? I have been with a man like this, and you question everything he says, there is no trust and it's no way to live.

I think you have been really brave the last couple of weeks.

Oh sorry jules, yes this thread makes it look like I threw him out on a whim!

follow the links and read the OP for explanation

first one

second one