The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Swinging Into Sobriety!

[Mouseface]

Hello there,

I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes travelling far and wide, stopping off here and there to collect lovely folk, just like you, for a natter all about booze and the blues that come with being a drinker of whatever quantity.

We don't wear or sell judgey pants here, although a G-string or two (Oooh Matron!) has been known to sort the fan belt out on the Bus as we've been driving for such a long time now!!

In short, we've regular posters here, lurkers, those who have managed to keep their drinking to 'social' occasions, some who are really struggling on an hourly basis and some who are completely dry!

Whatever your drinking 'status', you're welcome here in the new bigger Battle Bus, (as requested) whilst we head far and wide, listening to one another, as we face each day that comes our way, whether it be good, bad or downright ugly, we really have seen it all and don't mind one bit. Lurk or chat, it's up to you but one thing you will always find, is a warm welcome, Opal Fruit wrappers (Looks at Ma bosom push up! ) and of course, in complete confidentiality.

So, if you'd like to look what happened on the last thread (a bit like catch up TV) you can look at this link which will take you there - JUST HERE

And, if you would like to see where we started driving this wonderful Bus, over seven years ago, you can have a look at this very honest thread - RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon,

Mouse xx

ma I can rack up 8/9000 steps just at work. The rest is made up walking the terrorist. Not for the next fortnight though as she's just been speyed.

I worked today because someone called in sick and in four and a half hours that was 5,000 steps. Was busy though.

Tomorrow the terrorist and I will mostly be having a pyjama day. I plan on walking to the toilet, the kitchen and the back garden. I will be lucky to manage 500. I am going to make a big pile of pasta, and get some favourite dvds oot. The Opposite Sex (1956), The Ghost And Mrs Muir and All About Eve. Bliss.

You whole day is spent sitting down. I drive to work,spend the day either sitting at my desk or sitting in meetings,drive home, sit down all-night on MN!
I do try to do a half hour walk at lunchtime which is about a mile and a few squats when I remember but that's it.
That's a bit shit really

ma I might walk miles but I am not fit. Wish I was. I work with a nurse who trots about at twice the speed I do, then teaches dance 3 evenings a week.

And then never shuts up about being 'disgusting' because she's too fat (size 10) for her XS scrubs.

One of my legs is a size 10. Maybe even a 12.

Hello,

I would like to join you all, I spent all of yesterday reading through JWD's original thread and the two subsequent ones after.

Yesterday was the first time I haven't had a drink on a Saturday night for about 5 years. It was a very uncomfortable night. So you could say this is my first day sober.

I have always liked to have a drink socially but I think my drinking started to become a problem about 3 years ago. It started out I would have a couple of glasses every evening. I would open a bottle whilst cooking tea then one whilst eating it wasn't long before I was finishing the bottle. Since my promotion at work and a change of shifts it has progressed to the point I have been drinking a bottle of wine every night at home alone and maybe the odd gin or vodka for good measure. Because I often get home late the children (DS 15 & DS 11) have already been fed by my mother so once shes gone I will open the bottle and not even eat.

Without going into too much detail on my first post I am recently single after 25 years which was my choice (something I had been plucking up the courage to do for years). The first week was a euphoric feeling of freedom which soon descended into a feelings of loneliness and not knowing who I am anymore.
This is also my first ever post on an internet forum! Thank you all for reading.

Welcome Jayne well done for posting, you'll get lots of support and company here.

I'll post properly later, not feeling too well right now.

Thank you LuxuryWoman2017,

Hope your feeling better later.

I do about 7000/8000 at work and it really is the only exercise I get regularly. Trying to make myself go out for walks when the weather's nice.

Welcome to the bus jayne and well done on leaving an unhappy relationship. This is a great place to hang out just for company or reassurance, especially when you feel tempted to (over)drink/eat or are just generally feeling bleurgh.

Now, more importantly, pom bears come in flavours? How have I not know this. Do they do salt & vinegar?

Welcome Jayne x

Faire I'm happy to say they do, and cheese and onion

Hello there jayne, you will never be alone on the bus. It sounds like you have gripped a whole bunch of nettles lately. Not much wonder you feel such turmoil. You did it for a reason though, it's time to look to the future, whatever it may hold. In time you will gather strength, you will. In the meantime, be kind to yourself. Cry if you need to, if you aren't hungry make yourself soup, nutritious but mug friendly, watch your favourite films, call your friends, experiment with a new look. But above all, be you. X

And on the odd occasion faire you can get a cheese pom bear. I have only found these in Home Bargains.

Haven't seen them for a bit though.

The terrorist is giving me the whale eye. The cone of shame had to go on yesterday. She is very girny.

It's going to be a long two weeks. I have back to back appointments Mon and Tues. Samples - urine and blood, x-rays, eye exams, dermatology, rheumatology. All go.

Posh hair do at end of the appointments on Tuesday. Can't wait. there is even a whisper that I will get Botox for my headaches. I'm sure my headaches are right where my elevens are

I am having a terrible time but you made me smile dubh.

Welcome jayne I am separated after a ltr. It's all about pace. Be kind to yourself.

I have written off last week. After some decent contact with dd she has decided not to speak to me again. I'm very sad.

ma today I'm at the place where the rabbit got run over! It makes me think of you and isindie Maybe a mentionof the rabbit will even draw her out of hiding....

AhVenus a good memory. Well, not for the rabbit! I was thinking about indie just the other day. It would be great to see her back on the bus again. Last message I got she was going through a very ugly split from dp and was battling for custody of DTS. I'll message her and see how she is.

Ma fab pic, your dd is beautiful, you must be very proud. I know what you mean re sat down, working the checkouts you do feel envious of the shelf stackers who must have thighs of iron not me, I would get fed up with all that exercise
Elba how are you today?
Hi mouse sounds like you’re keeping yourself busy! Your tattoo is lovely
Well done dubh! I’m good, been busy working (worked 52 hours this week and that’s with a few days off). Exercise is rubbish because of my bloody ankle which is sore so I’m not keen on going back to the gym yet, hopefully next week. Did take buggalugs (dog) for a walk earlier, 40 minutes so that’s something even if it is gentle exercise (not that gentle, wrestling the antisocial sod from placid Doberman who wanted to play, or carrying the bugger across main roads)
Hi jayne and welcome
Lux how are you feeling?
I’m back on the healthy eating Have started reducing my dose of cocodamol (for ankle pain) as don’t want to get tempted. Been v. busy and walked buggalugs today but have a nice relaxing evening planned.

Hey all. Have been too ashamed to pop by (yes, I know, I know). Been drinking solidly for months. Going to try for a month day AF from tomorrow, and take it from there. I need to do this.

Haven't read back properly but hi to Ma, Mouse, Venus, Dubh, Lux and all others - sorry, am a bit ashamed to not be able to NC everyone properly.

Thank you for all the lovely welcomes!!

Forced myself to take my youngest shopping for shoes today feel better though for doing it.
Made me and the boys a lovely tea and sorted their uniforms for morning.

I think I started drinking as a way of dealing with the loneliness of living with a man who drank every night in the pub (oh the irony) he would go straight from work to the pub then ring me hours later when he wanted picking up. I would have to get four kids in the car then sit and wait in the car park whilst he finished his drink!! Even though this was years ago and my older two are grown up and have moved out the resentment still stings especially as he says it was only a handful of times and I over reacted!!
Sorry for my rant but nothing worse than somebody down playing your reality. Going to take some time tonight to read through this thread as I realise the others are nearly 7 years old . It will help me get to know you all a bit better

Hey small. Good to see you. I desperately need to get a grip of my life and also lose some weight. Can I be your AF buddy, starting again tomorrow?
Hi Jayne I don't think I said hello!

I'd love that, Ma. Thank you. One day at a time. I'll check in tomorrow around this time and we'll hold hands gently?

Frankly I'm scared. I can't carry on like this. Let's try to get ahold of our respective lives together.

I'll get the nibbles - d'you want to choose a film?

Have to be low carb nibbles for me though. I think I'm allowed olives.
Shall we watch Moulin Rouge so we can drool over Ewan McGegor?

What a good idea, Ma - I'd forgotten what a fab film that is. Excellent choice.

I have a lot of SlimFast pretzels in. They are nicer than they sound. Same time same place tomorrow, lovely?

Hi Ma

Hello to you too! and Small. sorry lots of people and messages to catch up on.
Small I'm just taking one day at a time I didn't drink yesterday but I've had two glasses tonight. I'm off to bed soon as I've got a banging headache from not drinking yesterday. This is hard, the hardest thing was realising that I do have a problem last night was an eye opener I never thought I would feel like that about alcohol my body and mind were a mess. As Dubh says we need to be kinder to ourselves xx

See you here tomorrow small
Jayne headaches and poor sleep are common in the early days unfortunately but it does get easier. Lots of water and sweets like jelly babies or something to combat the sugar loss from not having alcohol. You can ditch the sweets once you have got to grips with the booze. We eat a lot of Opal Fruits on this bus but the green ones
are all mine!

That's fine the orange ones are my favourites

Ok. You can stay. The other Babes are always after my green ones with their bastard thievy spoons.

On another note, it is perfectly acceptable to kill dh if he has hiccups for more than another 10 seconds, right? No human on earth needs to hiccup that loudly!!!!

Hey smallfox I've been wondering how you are, it's good to have you post again and I'm sorry you've been been having a rough time. I'd like to join you in healthy eating too.

Jayne yes sleep is disturbed for a few days but does settle down.

made enjoy your evening, you always sound so hectic and busy so you deserve some time to chill.

Hope everyone else is OK, Elba how are you now?

I would be fine if only I could breathe! So very tired.

Dubh I wish I had the energy to respond properly to the lovely posts you write, I so enjoy reading the things you put and your fantastic turns of phrase.

Sending good thoughts to all.