The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Swinging Into Sobriety!

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Hello there,

I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes travelling far and wide, stopping off here and there to collect lovely folk, just like you, for a natter all about booze and the blues that come with being a drinker of whatever quantity.

We don't wear or sell judgey pants here, although a G-string or two (Oooh Matron!) has been known to sort the fan belt out on the Bus as we've been driving for such a long time now!!

In short, we've regular posters here, lurkers, those who have managed to keep their drinking to 'social' occasions, some who are really struggling on an hourly basis and some who are completely dry!

Whatever your drinking 'status', you're welcome here in the new bigger Battle Bus, (as requested) whilst we head far and wide, listening to one another, as we face each day that comes our way, whether it be good, bad or downright ugly, we really have seen it all and don't mind one bit. Lurk or chat, it's up to you but one thing you will always find, is a warm welcome, Opal Fruit wrappers (Looks at Ma bosom push up! ) and of course, in complete confidentiality.

So, if you'd like to look what happened on the last thread (a bit like catch up TV) you can look at this link which will take you there - JUST HERE

And, if you would like to see where we started driving this wonderful Bus, over seven years ago, you can have a look at this very honest thread - RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon,

Mouse xx

I've heard the book is great too Sparkly as is Annie Grace 'This Naked Mind' you can get the first chapter or 2 free to download so why not take a look and see what you think?

I understand the unwinding after a hard day and this is where it's crucial to form new habits. Maybe a pot of great quality coffee, or a long soak in the bath, a boogie round the kitchen - anything that takes your mind of the wine will help. Make sure you keep hydrated, being genuinely thirsty can really start those cravings off, same with hunger. Explore some new drinks - I love sparkling water and Cranberry juice - it hits the spot for me as it's dry and feels treaty.

I had to stop watching certain TV shows at the usual times as it was linked to settling down with a drink - it becomes an automatic response so I had to break that response but now I can watch without a drink, just 2 or 3 weeks broke that habit for me.

You can do this!

Thank you so much Luxury I've got plenty to be cracking on with to take my mind off things :) I'm making a podcast with my friend so I've got lots an lots of research to get on with when little one is in bed. Just been in the cupboard and found all my boxes of flavoured green teas from when I last went on a health kick so I'm sorted on that front for the night time :) currently in the garden in the sunshine listening to music on my laptop with a big pint glass of ice cold flavoured water.

I LOVE cranberry juice and I love sparkling water so will definitely be buying some, I love fruit juices like pineapple etc, so that's a good call. My friend once bought me a bottle of Rhubarb cordial after I had the most amazing cocktail with it in once so I'll have to get my hands on some I bet that would be delicious with sparkling water and lots of ice

Lots of useful ideas! Really appreciate it.
Can't believe I've only just remembered I actually have one of those Samsung virtuality headsets and I'd download meditation apps on it so I could be sat on a beach or on a cliff edge looking out; so plan for today is to dig out that and find my fit bit

I will do this! :D

I shall also search the other book you recommended x

welcome sparkly you sound determined and already have strategies in place which is excellent. One day at a time

We have had our rescue cat General Jericho Jones for one year now!
As you can see , he is a small, timid and stressed beast!

Shit morning.....H bearly spoke to me again....then wondered why I got upset. He says he loves my but that's just how he is right now. How's away tonight and all I can think about is wine

Ugh, I'm such a downer

I'm sorry but I haven't caught up on the thread properly. There's been a lot of activity since I was last on. Just wanted to check in and say "hello" and I'm still here and still AF.

I'm slightly miffed at the moment though. You'd have thought that cutting out 140+ units of alcohol a week and not increasing/changing one's eating habits would result in a smidgen of weight loss. It seems not. I am very at this. I used to binge eat carbs as well when I was drunk - so this really doesn't make sense at all.

However. It may be peculiar, but I still prefer being sober, even if spherical. Will come back and NC/post properly later.

You mentioned the wine today last night, Will. Nobody will stop you, and nobody will be cross with you. Nobody here will be unkind to you. If you do drink today, please, please try to forgive yourself. The things that brought you to this situation are not of your making. I used to drink on behalf of other people. I somehow thought it was my responsibility to take the crash. Oh Unwise, I'm so pleased that a sober life is better than the alternative. Anyone who thinks you can't put on weight eating tons of fruit is wrong. It's in the word Tons.

Hi.. I think I have an issue with wine. I drink a bottle every 2 days. I drink it in the afternoon. The other day I drank it before getting ds from school. I won't ask do I have a problem, I know I do. Can someone talk to me? Am I in the wrong place?

You're in the right place Fours. You will find a warm welcome here and lots of people who will understand where you are. Just dipping in quickly to say do read back on the thread and keep posting - it is a very positive step to take, and for many I think has been a key move towards facing the problem.

Welcome fours brave move to face up to your issues. I hope you find the thread helpful. You'll never be judged here, only supported.

Hello fours, you'll find lots of help here.....maybe not from me as I've only just re joined after going AWOL....but all tickets are open tickets on this bus and never expire. I've caved, I new I would but have said only one bottle. It's hard when you receive text like this

I don't want to rock the boat as I so want to be loved....but sometimes I feel it's all just so unfair I could explode! (And I do sometimes)

I feel really shit now, I feel so needy and insecure. I have one friend who lives in Manchester (I'm in London) I speak to no one, see no one. pathetic. I don't want to bring you all down, sorry

Welcome fours and well done on the first post. You have come to the right place.
will everyone has a need to be loved. I have been having this very discussion with a friend of mine recently and it is anything human desire to be loved. I think many of the Babes on here drink because they feel this is missing from their lives.

ma is right will I hate to hear people so down you're not pathetic just human x

Gosh you two, you've actually bought me to tears. I don't want to feel this crap or have so little self respect. The more upset I get the more my H is irritated by me and cold. I've just looked for AA in my area...unless in doing something wrong I don't umderstant ther site or what meeting to go to. I know I can't do this on my own. Things are just so effed up I don't even know what to sort first

One thing I do know....I want to have as much possible time on this planet with my wonderful, lovely Son. He's my world.

There are posters here with AA experience will hopefully someone will come along. I think you're very brave and wish you all the best.

I've found it helped to post through the roughest times, helped me think more clearly.

Thanks Luxury, I don't feel brave at all.....I feel scared.x

Change is scary will any changes scare the fiercest of us. It is brave to admit to issues that worry us.
Keep talking, keep planning. There's always someone here to listen.

Well this is my danger time. All I could think of earlier was buying wine. But I didn't so that's 2 days AF.
Have had a bath and now laid in bed waiting for dh to have a chat. Going to look for some new books to read in bed as I've never drank in bed!
Hoping warner weather soon as I'm going to bike ride and garden in the evenings then too. Gotta make plans!

My life has been at times the most godawful hideous terrifying mess. My eating was up the creek, I drank like a fish and smoked like the proverbial chimney. It is brave of you Will, to come up for air and write about how frightened you feel. You have also started to articulate really well some of what has led you to this place. So yes, although you are scared stiff, you are still enormously brave.

If you phone someone at AA, they will support you and go with you to a meeting. You absolutely don't have to do it alone.

Well done DooWhop I will confess that during a rough patch I took a bottle of wine to bed every night, I was living in my bedroom avoiding my OH basically. Shit times.

Well done whop. Planning really helps.
Amazingly, I am on day 3 today and trying not to let difficult relationship with friend sabotage my efforts....