Please help (trigger warning)

[Beyondworried]

Posting here for traffic and have name changed as am desperate for advice.
My 18 yo DD has disclosed tonight that she was raped on Friday night. Feel utterly numb. Waiting for the police. Can anyone tell me what the process will be... what happens after they have spoken to her?

Oh Beyond

How are you doing now? Do you want to vent at us?

My DD did her video recorded interview yesterday. Lovely DC who reiterated this will struggle to struggle to get to court. I know where he live. Please talk me down.

op what did you decide on doing? How is your daughter?

Got too this thread a bit late, but just wanted to say a few things.

I was raped at your DD's age, I already had a 1 year old and was raped by a colleague in a very high position at the place I worked. I didn't report to the police as it took me a few days to really realise the full extent of what had happened but I did inform my mum and at the time I didn't understand why she wasn't as angry as I thought she would be. We have spoken of it since and she told me that it crushed her and broke her heart but she didn't want me too see that - however at the time, I think I needed somebody to be as angry as I was.
I did however speak to Rape Crisis (albeit a few months later) and I spoke with the most amazing girl called Molly (I will never forget her) and she talked me through what the proceedings would be if I did report and she helped me decide I wouldn't be reporting at all. She also made me finally realise that this wasn't my fault.
At the time I was very strong and showed little to no emotion and when I told my best friend I actually laughed. Obviously it's not funny and I don't really know why I did that.
It wasn't I think for a good year until it hit me really hard. I'd bottled up so much and not given myself any time too heal.
I am 4 years on from it, and I still have the bad memories but they don't plague my mind like they did at one point. I no longer feel shame and realise I have nothing to be embarrassed about. Your DD will go through a lot, but she will come out the other side. As will you.

Posted too early. But to finish up, this is a truly horrible thing to have happened but like I said it will get better, just support her as much as you can and it is so amazing she came to you as quickly as she did and had the strength to report. I so hope that it goes the way it should and this disgusting specimen gets the jail time that he deserves.
Keep strong OP.

Last thing!
My boyfriend spoke with Rape Crisis too, and it was very good for him. They explained things that I couldn't properly - like potential court proceedings. They already knew he was my boyfriend so knew how to support him and I during the phone call (obviously it was all very confidential still) that's an option for you, your DP and/or DD's boyfriend should any of you need it.