Told exes new gf that his son is here

[summerfling]

Admittedly I did it out of anger.

Angry because he's trying to hide the fact he has a child from his gf so as not to ruin his relationship with her even though he didn't meet her until well after I fell pregnant.

Of course, if there's a fall out, I won't know. She's hardly going to reply to me!

I also did it because he's changed his fucking number! Shows he's trying to get away from his responsibilities & it's not happening!

I'd like to think she'd be decent enough not to stand for the fact her bf has disowned his son but I won't bank on it.

That anger you project will eat you up.

Look after your son. Don't use him as a pawn. He is precious and you should focus on that.

He told you he wouldn't tell her ad you believed him becuase? I thought he was a liar.

Anger does you no good

Concentrate on you and baby

You've done nothing wrong, it was a perfectly polite message.

You can now get on with enjoying your lovely little baby, congratulations!

I am in no way using my son as a pawn.

I am angry that my ex isn't paying what he should & that I will struggle because of his selfishness.

Of course I'm angry, it's only been 4.5month in total since it all happened.

In that time I've carried my child, gave birth to him (I nearly died & our son had issues).

I won't contact my ex after this.

Congrats on your baby. I think you did the right thing.

He's obviously not going to turn round & say "yeah got a kid, no I don't want to see him".

He lied to me about having an STI, he isn't going to be truthful about a child.

Thank you for the congratulations!

Fwiw I think you have done the right thing as long as you keep a copy of what you sent and not send anything else

Fingers crossed that the maintenance is sorted soon, it's the least he owes you both.

At the end of the day, him not wanting to see his son is his loss isn't it?

You'll be fine, the anger will fade in time and you can move on with your life knowing you're doing the right thing by your son.

I'd pity the woman he is with now if this is his character.

Sorry, naff

Don't think you have done anything wrong especially if he and his family blocked you and it was the only way to contact him.

Congrats on the baby.

Are you the op who contacted this ex's boss but she was also his friend?

My ex has just messaged me!

I don't want anything to do with you or your baby.

Don't reply, ignore him.

Just let CMS do their stuff.......

I won't be replying or making contact again

You already knew he wanted nothing to do with the baby so that's no surprise to you.

Ignore the message

What a penis!
You're doing the right thing by not replying. Leave him to it.

to you. I don't blame you for what you did and I am sorry your ex is such a twunt.

Congrats on your little one. Do you have support around you?

I'd just reply 'okay, if that's how you feel he is better off without you. Regardless of that you have to provide financially. Child maintenance will be in contact'

Ignore the message, go through CMS and most important of all, enjoy your baby.

Op congratulations. New motherhood its hard enough without baby's Daddy being AWOL and what sounds like a traumatic birth. I hope you and your son are doing ok. You mentioned he has issues - I hope you're getting some support? Feel free to pm me if you want - I've been there with the complicated baby ( hes 2 and still complicated...)
I think you absolutely did the right thing. He can't say you didn't try to inform him and if I was her I would want to know. It would take something pretty full on for me to not think he's a dick and dump his ass if my BF had a baby he voluntarily wasn't involved with

Keep the message too so when he goes round at a later date telling everyone you won't let him see his child you will have proof otherwise.

Just saw your update. He's a total dick

Make sure you do everything you can to get maintenance for the baby from him.

Congratulations on your son, and please don't let his father's attitude spoil any of it for you. He is behaving badly, and he is the one missing out. You've done the right thing by going through the CMS process as early as possible.

I also think it's much better to get it all out in the open with the girlfriend as well as your ex, and your message sounded pretty civilised and left it up to her to respond.

Best of luck and enjoy the lovely (but intense) little baby days... :-)