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He helped me get dressed after sex...

78 replies

KRGP · 13/04/2017 18:48

Has this ever happened to you? Is this a nice thing?
It sort of struck me by surprise; my (ahem) friend got dressed and then helped me get dressed too!
I was a little dumbfounded in the moment to question it and thought it was a little weird once I pondered on it.
Just to clarify, this guy is not a boyfriend, just a (ahem) friend.
Any thoughts?

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kaitlinktm · 13/04/2017 19:28

Have you got a bit of a (ahem) cough OP? Wink Grin

Seriously, I would look at this as a positive, caring sort of thing. Perhaps he's seen that film too and thought it was a good idea.

Quarterfinalist · 13/04/2017 19:28

Zilp! Grin

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 13/04/2017 19:30

Tbh I'd find this weird & wouldn't like it but each to thier own...
What's with the 'ahem' Hmm I also find that strange or do I mean annoying

EpoxyResin · 13/04/2017 19:32

Some people get more erotics satisfaction out of tenderness than others. Back in my younger days I loved the deeply personal intimacies much more than the act itself, even with FWB. I used to have one guy bathe me after - LOVED it.

Didn't mean i was any more into them though (although they frequently thought it did), just that it was a part of an intimate encounter that I enjoyed taking advantage of with an obliging partner. Be optimistic but all means, but I wouldn't read too much into it just yet.

supermum87 · 13/04/2017 19:33

Share away

EpoxyResin · 13/04/2017 19:33

*BY all means

Ellisandra · 13/04/2017 19:35

Doesn't mean he's into you - just that it's something he likes doing.

And please - enough with the faux-coy "ahem". We're all adults here and able to cope with the fact you had a fuck Grin

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KRGP · 13/04/2017 19:35

Elendon - Lol, no, he didn't help me with underwear thank goodness otherwise that would've put me off ever seeing him again!

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feckingmarvellous · 13/04/2017 19:37

I don't think you can read much from one act. If you agreed FWB, then it's most likely FWB in his eyes. Going down the "does XYZ mean he likes me?" road only leads to hurt IME. Why are you wondering this? Do you want him to fall in love with you?

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KRGP · 13/04/2017 19:39

Sorry about writing ahem everyone, it's just I feel embarrassed to actually write about it, even anonymously.
I don't want to read too much into it but rather wanted to know how common (or not) it is what he did?

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PeachPants · 13/04/2017 19:40

You do the zip on your jeans before the button? Is this normal? misses point

Whathaveilost · 13/04/2017 19:41

I had someone do that to me and I found it as creepy as fuck. Then when I was in the bath he wanted to wash my hair. I just felt so vulnerable - but not in a good way.
I had to get shut. Awful!

TheRealPooTroll · 13/04/2017 19:42

Hahahahaha! Did he let you do the last bit of your zip up yourself so you could feel like a big girl?
Beyond weird imo.

VestalVirgin · 13/04/2017 19:43

I don't know shit about casual sex, seeing as I never have it.

But I did talk to a guy once who complained about his girlfriend only allowing him one night stands when he wanted to have friends with benefits, so I kinda think it is not very odd for a friend with benefits to be nice to you. It doesn't have to be the same thing as ONS.

VestalVirgin · 13/04/2017 19:45

I had someone do that to me and I found it as creepy as fuck.

If you find it creepy, always listen to your instincts.

But if you are just weirded out, well, I don't think it has to mean that he sees you in a romantic way.

TheFirstMrsDV · 13/04/2017 19:45

I would prefer a nice cup of tea

MaybeDoctor · 13/04/2017 19:47

Well, there is that bit in The English Patient where he sews up her rather lovely white dress from where he ripped it off about an hour earlier....

MrsBobtonTrent · 13/04/2017 19:52

Saw a stripper in Berlin once who came on naked and then got dressed. Not sure what the meaning of that was either.

Nousernameforme · 13/04/2017 19:52

Is he aware it's a FWB situation rather than a clandestine affair. I ask more for the snog at the end rather than the weird dressing thing.

dowhatnow · 13/04/2017 19:55

But do you want it to be more than just friends? It sounds as if he does.

Elendon · 13/04/2017 19:57

MrsBobtonTrent that has made me laugh.

TinselTwins · 13/04/2017 19:57

buttoning up a shirt/blouse or helping with a jacket while facing each other I get in a cheesy 80s style "let me fix your tie" & thanks for the sex way

but buttoning up your jeans is so functional - I'ld feel like an infant! I wouldn't like that

Bobbins43 · 13/04/2017 19:58

I have an excellent FWB and he can be quite tender too. I make him soup and take it round when he's sick. Sometimes we've just cuddled up together and watched TV. The relationship can be whatever you make it and are comfortable with, OP

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KRGP · 13/04/2017 20:01

Nousernameforme - it's a rock solid FWB situation. Mutually agreed.
But the kiss at the end was weird and is it worth mentioning that he also likes to just kiss me when no one is looking?
There have been plenty of stolen kisses at work when no one is around. Is that normal for FWB too or is that an additional thing I'm not aware of?

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Misstic · 13/04/2017 20:02

I'm not sure. The fact that you thought it was weird means it probably felt weird for good reasons. Your instinct was interpreting the situation and telling you that something was a bit off. Only you can figure it out.

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