DP reported colleague and the colleague lost his job

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Hello all. I need some opinions, whether my DP did right or wrong because i cant stop thinking about it. He started this job three months ago. It is security job, night shift, they have to stay at places and guard them all night ( thats all i know ) He found his colleague asleep and alerted him to wake up , but when he returned to check on him later that night he claims that he found him asleep again and that when the colleague realized that he was there he started pretending that he does his job. Now i understand that when you have a job you have to do it right . The part that troubles me is that the colleague is a family man, in his fifties , that he hasnt caused any issues prior to this. My DP did not even care to ask him if there was any special circumstances that made him fall asleep that night (i maybe take it too far but anything can happened as an emergency the day before or something and caused him to be very tired). He reported him straight away but bot because he cares about the job (thats my understanding) but because he found it disrespectful that he ignored him the first time and fell asleep again. The colleague lost his job and i feel terrible about it. I need opinions please

I don't get all these people who think it's their duty to report everything that happens, anywhere, ever.

Totally reasonable if someone is being put in danger but not when it's someone doing something that happens to be wrong but isn't really any of your business.

He sounds like the sort of person everyone hates at work.

The sort who run to management to report everything.

There must of been other issues my understanding is verbal warning then written warning then sacking companies have to follow a certain process.

I think falling asleep on a waking night shift would be seen as gross misconduct and they would be able to sack for it.

I've sat on disciplinary hearings and dismissed people for sleeping on duty. It's gross misconduct.

Night workers get paid additional for the unsocial hours they work... And they need to be working.

OP, you need to look at your relationship in isolation and decide if it's what you want, separating it from the work incident.

The thing is that even if it is gross misconduct, there would still have to be a formal hearing about it.

So it is normally suspension then dismissal.

Your husband is a nasty piece of work - because of how he treats you, regardless of what's gone on with this man at work.

I think you should park this topic, and start a new thread on your relationship. It sounds like this incident has really helped you see what a nasty, bullying man you are married to - and that's what you should be focusing on here.

Boney, reputable companies would hold a hearing following a full investigation, but I know that private companies and where security guards are contracted is quite different.

Quite often people are told that resigning is in their best interests. I suspect we don't know the full details here.

The fact is that if you do a job like this, where you are easily replaced, it's also easy to get rid of you very quickly.
That's been my experience in this area.

I've sacked people for sleeping at work on many occasions. It's gross misconduct. If there were any mitigating factors then that's for the employer to take into account at a disciplinary hearing.

However... I don't think you're really posting about that, OP. I think you're worried your DP is controlling and bullying you.

Is anything worrying you that's happened recently?

I think there are 2 issues at play here OP.

In my opinion I don't think your P did anything wrong by reporting his colleague, especially as he'd already woken him once during their shift. To go back to sleep shows a blatant disregard for the job he's being paid to do. Yes there may have been extenuating circumstances, which I imagine management took into account alongside previous conduct when deciding on disciplinary action.

What seems to be the more pressing issue, and forgive me but it seems this is the crux of the issue, is the way your P is treating you/makes you feel. Only you can decide whether the relationship can be salvaged or even if you want to salvage it but it sounds like this should be your focus rather than what happened with your P's colleague.