Hi, have been reading and lurking, lots of threads, historic and current. Can see the cycle of emotional abuse i seem to have found myself in. Currently on second day of husband sulking, not complete silent treatment. Replied to my text asking if he was ignoring me today with a no.
Yesterday he came home from work, looked in cupboard to see if I'd bought bread, I had forgotten, hadn't been to shops. He proceeded to lose his temper, nothing for breakfast, nothing to take for lunch. I have a long day at work etc etc. My new reaction to when he spits his dummy out is to not respond. I apologised for forgetting and Suggested there was plenty of cereal for breakfast, wraps to take for lunch etc. Met with meltdown, that's not what I want for breakfast, you don't understand how hard it is to be driving all day. You can get lunch when you want etc etc. He knows I really don't like it when he loses his temper and shouts aggressively. He totally over reacts at the slightest thing, whereas he could just have easily responded with,ok, I'll just pop and grab a loaf while you put kids to bed. I never know what reaction I'll get. Anyway, he then stormed off to bed, I asked him if he was watching broad church with me. He said no and went to bed. Went to work before I got up, I always text a good morning, which I did, he didn't reply. I text him later on asking if he was ignoring me, just got a no. He has since come home, not telling me how late he would be. Seen the dinner I have saved for him, turned his nose up, is that all I get after working all day. Cold pasta bake. Obviously I would have heated it up for him! He's now gone out to get himself something proper to eat. I know that he is trying to break me down to beg forgiveness for daring to forget bread, and serve such a shoddy meal, help me to not buckle when he gets home!