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I did cheat on my husband and the guy I slept with wants to be a friend now.

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user1490951335 · 31/03/2017 10:41

This guy knew I was married so why now he is feeling guilty and doesn't want to be attached? I m broken-hearted cause I did cheat on my husband who loves me and I feel angry to bits cause it is not the great feeling to be abandoned after you trusted someone and had intimate contact risking losing lots in your life. Should I ignore him and keep the rest of my proud I have left or should accept what did happen and stay friend with him or turn my back and kick his out of my life for good.

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ComputerUserNumptyTwit · 31/03/2017 14:21

I'd feel exactly the same if a man posted about being unfaithful. No sexist double standards from me.

Riversleep · 31/03/2017 14:35

Do you think you cheated because he is a lovely man who loves you more than you love him? Sometimes people find that a bit dull and enjoy the chase. I bet that's exactly how your OM felt. He liked the forbidden fruit of shagging a married woman, now he's off on his new conquest. You not being able to have children has nothing to do with you being 'meant to be' with your husband. There are incredibly toxic relationships that produce children and people who couldn't have children who are together for years. If you are unhappy, you need to leave the marriage and let him find someone who loves him.

JaneA1 · 31/03/2017 14:39

I think you cannot be serious with all of this you are sharing right now ...

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user1490951335 · 31/03/2017 15:00

Riversleep
you are absolutely right

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MyheartbelongstoG · 31/03/2017 15:02

Imagine if op were a man.....

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 31/03/2017 16:08

I hope you used contraception Sad.

PovertyPain · 31/03/2017 16:32

I strongly suspect you wouldn't give a shit about hurting your husband if the OM decided to stay with you, op. You're only staying with your DH until someone 'better' comes along. Do your poor DH a favour and leave him so he can hopefully be happy with someone that loves him back.

maria3232 · 06/04/2017 14:57

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Adora10 · 06/04/2017 15:01

People love to give adulterers a virtual kicking on MN without considering that maybe the "guilty" party's married life is genuinely miserable or even abusive.

2 wrongs don't make a right; retaliating against a shit person by turning yourself into one is not the answer; just fucken leave; it's a lot easier than having an affair.

SleepingTiger · 06/04/2017 17:36

A "wee sparkle". Is that like a piss?

CotesDeGroan · 07/04/2017 08:59

just fucken leave; it's a lot easier than having an affair

That's easy to say when you're not stuck in an abusive relationship.

Trich · 08/04/2017 00:09

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