What the heck do I do now?

[Soconfusedandsohurt]

I woke up this morning to my partner having a go at me that the floor hasn't been mopped and I've been napping, he pulled me up by my arm roughly and in my defence I struck him round the face.
He dropped my arm and I legged it to the bathroom and tried to barricade myself in but he broke through, I knew he was going to hit me so I crouched and covered my face/head and he punched me repeatedly in my thighs and stomach.
I screamed for him to stop and that he was hurting me and he finally left, he's taken a bag and all the phone chargers but I don't know where on earth he would go too, so I'm assuming when he's done going into work he'll come back here.
I have been planning to leave him but was waiting for primary school placements to come out so I knew what area I needed to be in - this was obviously before this attack.
The bruises have already appeared in full force and are so hot and I can't really sit down, I have a tiny baby and a 4 year old with him.
I'm just sitting here crying my eyes out I don't know what the hell to do. He's taken the car (it is his car). I live 250 miles away from any family and I know my mum would drive up for us in a heartbeat but she's been booked in for a hysterectomy and today and obviously is going to be in no fit state.
I don't know what to do I am so, so hurt. I think he has also taken my keys and locked us in as I can't find them.
Where the fuck do I start? I knew shit was bad, not this bad. what do I do? I have I think around 3 hours until he is back.
Sorry if none of this is making sense I'm not thinking straight

OMG what happened, are you out now?

Hope you have plenty of rl support , and that the police are helpful today. Sending you an unmumsnetty hug

well done, you did the right thing

Take all the support offered
Ds may feel conflicted but will be fine
Ask for help to organize supervised contact
In a contact centre if you want to pursue safe contact in a few weeks.
Don't rush it while ex is wound up.
And call 999 if ex turns up.
Don't contact him or respond to his calls or texts without seeking advice. He will do the angry thing then crawling begging thing.

If you take ds to nursery, make sure they know something's going on. I don't know the legalities - hopefully the police officer will be able to advise - but you don't want your ds going home with anyone other than you.

Stay safe x

Well done OP.
Your DC will adjust given some time.
I hope you managed some sleep last night.
Keep going.

Read your OP with horror. Glad you've called the police and your stepdad.

All the best OP

OP - you have done a great thing today for all your futures.

I'm a DV survivor of 16 years. Life hasn't just got better - it's now pretty fantastic. First 2 years were tricky, I underestimated the support I would need and plus I didn't have Mumsnet to talk to!

Football / nursery wobbles are all temporary small hurdles that can be overcome easily in time - whereas getting away from an abuser is literally life saving.

Stay strong, you can do this.

Well done on contacting the police.
I hope you have someone with you to help you feel safe

The younger they are the easy it is to relocate, it gets harder once they start school. So i would think hard about your step dads offer, distance and support may be a good thing.

I know you've a lot to think about, but its an offer that deserves some thought.

So glad you've rang the police, how brave of you if SS do get in touch it'll be to see how they can help. You ringing the police shows you've safeguarded the children and offer support X

We'll done OP! You've taken the first step. No doubt he'll be sorry, never do it again etc but he's already done it numerous times - it will get worse and perhaps he'll start taking it out on the kids or threaten to. My ex did that to keep me line as they know we'll protect our children no matter what.
I echo a previous poster who said make sure nursery knows that your child only leaves with you & no-one else. You may also need to get a prohibitive steps order to protect the children along with a restraining order. Women's Aid will advise. Moving may seem daunting but if you have support elsewhere (I know now is not ideal) then it's worth it's weight in gold as you begin to heal from this abusive relationship. Don't forget to eat or drink sweet tea to keep yourself going. Wishing you strength

I went to a talk yesterday about assessing risk of somebody being killed by their partner. I attach photos of the tool professionals use. Scarily I think a lot of us who have been in dv relationships can answer yes to most of these questions. If you score highly in this you are at very real risk of being murdered by your partner. Op have you noted the question about threatening suicide? It is a common tactic used by abusers. Please stay away from this man for good if you want your dc to grow up with their mum. 💐

I don't know if you'll see this but You were on my mind so I just wanted to say I'm thinking of you and hope your ok.