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Is he trying to change me?

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alexandra1288 · 27/03/2017 10:16

We have the wedding in July and he keeps telling me since February to change my behavior because he always do what I want, when I want and he doesn't want to tolerate these things. From my point of view, I don't think that he always do what I want and when I want and I am also doing compromises because of him. I know that I criticize him, but this happens because of minor things, and not big stuff like I want him to change and if he doesn't do this, we break up. He, instead wants to change me or if I don't want to change, he is gonna break up with me. At the beginning, he was different, he was acting very nice with me and now he is very mean to me and always pointing to me to change my behavior because things doesn't always happen as I want..I don't know what to do, this seems to be a circle, he keeps telling me this..I told him that I will make adjustments, but I cannot completely change who I am..but inside my heart, I don't think that for everything is my fault..Instead, I believe that he is immature and he doesn't love me the way I am.

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AndTheBandPlayedOn · 28/03/2017 15:26

The beginning is the seduction dance. It is not sustainable. By the two year mark, imho, the true character is usually revealed (a bit at a time or a swift 180). You are lucky he let the mask slip before marriage.
Walk away: you are not compatible. < That is all you need to say. You do not need his agreement to end the relationship.

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