One word to describe your marriage...?

[TheGoodEnoughWife]

Just for fun/interest.

My dh asked me for one word to describe our marriage (inspired by a question on Broadchurch) and I went for 'challenging' - not meant in a negative way but from this being my third marriage (divorce, widowed), his second, we both have children/adult children from previous marriages, work, money and all that. And sometimes I find it challenging because he is so nice to me and I am not used to that! We have a great life with the normal ups and downs.

I asked him and he said 'A Work In Progress', which is four words! However forgiving him for that, I do get where he is coming from with having to put effort into our relationship and not just coasting. We have had some interesting times over our five years together and some changes to deal with but really do try and bring the focus back to just him and me when we can.

Your marriage/relationship in one word?

solid

Kaput

Pisstake

Healing

(there's been bitterness between us, we've not really been a team and we've both been suffering alone with our own MH issues, but we've recently made progress and are actually talking civilly and openly about things now)

This is interesting.... would be even more so if the number of years married was after the word.

For mine I would put

Romantic - 2 years
Loving - 4 years
Cosy - 6 years
Interesting - 8 years
Supportive - 12 years

Ours. It isn't perfect, what relationship is? It isn't always fun, it isn't always passionate, it isn't always friendly or strong. Most of the time it is but not always. But it is always ours and we do our best, most days, in our own way to keep it the best it can possibly be for us.

Philia

DP said 'Happy'

I say 'Real'.

Is there a word for that feeling when you are exasperated by someone who doesn't always listen properly to you, but exasperated in a kind of affectionate smiley way?

I will have that word too, if there is one!

(Example, DH didn't hear the "one" word and was texting me marriage describing words all night (example 7.19pm "joyful" ) which was sweet but kind of exasperating in a smiley way

665 I had to google that Very interesting reading about the Greeks' different words for love!

I am going to text them all at hourly intervals to DH

Safe

Finished

Boring.

I read this last night in bed and waited for a word to come from me. I felt indifferent to all of the happy words and all the negative ones didn't fit either. Boring is the only one that matches.

I'm not sure what to make of that to be honest!

Wonderful

Agree with PP it would be interesting (sorry that is probably the wrong word, I really don't mean in a schadenfreude type way) for the length of marriages/relationships to be given too. I have been with DH 24 yrs.

Nightmare

Piss-up - 5 weeks

Not me, but overheard in a local shop a couple of years back, name's created as I did not know them but they obviously knew each other:-

Jim: "How are you? How did the wedding go?"
Pete: "Yeah alright, honeymoon was fantastic, weather was great!"
Jim: "Been back, what, three weeks now?"
Pete: "Something like that, yeah"
Jim: "Kids soon or waiting a while?"
Pete, slightly sheepishly: "Well, we split up. Didn't work out"
Jim: "Actually, I think I may have heard that but wasn't sure if it was for real"
Pete: "Yeah. Bloody good piss-up though, the bar bill was nearly three grand!"

Love and commitment eh!

Comfortable- he's my best friend

Precarious.

Improving

AndInShort I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage and infertility - have you considered counselling to help you and partner be kind to each other?

Sexless

Sparky

Everything x

Exciting