New relationship - emotionally unavailable?

[Mangoandpassionfruit]

Thanks in advance for reading, just looking for some advice and views really.
Met online 2 months ago, very quickly moved offline. Speak every day, several times a day. 4 dates so far. Have talked about being a couple, talked about the future and meeting each other's dcs.
Dates are magical but few and far between. We live 45 minutes apart and we are both very busy workwise and with dcs sporting things at weekends. Part of the atttaction how similar our lives are.
So...........dates really hard to pin down, feel I am chasing them.he talks about the future a lot but we don't seem to be able to progress the now to get to the future. He often disappears into himself and has said twice when I've asked he's worried it's not going to work out and the distance and the dcs ages worry him. I feel the responsibility is on my shoulders to prove to him it can work and it's getting a bit exhausting. I wonder if he's scared of getting hurt again or whether he is just emotionally unavailable and pulling me in when he has no intention of making plans to make it work.

Struggling to block his number but I have deleted it. I just feel sad he opened up to me and now I've walked away. I messaged him to tell him we were looking for different things as I wanted a healthy, happy, open and honest relationship where we actually had fun and saw each other rather than ruminating about the 'relationship' on text. It was done in a kind way so I hope he understands. I did tell him I was deleting his number as I didn't think it was healthy for us to keep having the same conversations. Think I need to not pick up waifs and strays in the guise of adult men.
Thank you for all your comments.

Stop engaging with him! The man is a using arsehole, he just wants to play you like a fish on a line and you are letting him.

I remember your thread the first time around and thought you'd dodged a bullet then, please don't be dragged back into it.

He tells you what he needs to tell you to have you fussing and concerned about him. He won't even let you go over and sit in his garden. That is downright bizarre.

I'm sorry to be harsh but you have to stop putting yourself last. He's put you down, lied to you, woke you up at 3am with texts to tell you he doesn't want drama (wtf?). It could not be clearer what kind of man he is.

Please block his number. Nothing good is ever going to come from being in contact with him.

You're right and thanks for straight talking. I'm far too pink and fluffy! Have blocked it.