disturbed by my partners "fantasy talk" during sex

[ilovemyCheebie]

My partner is 48 and I'm 24, I struggle a little with the age gap.
During sex he has said to me that he's pretending I'm a 19 year old school girl, he's said he's imagining me like "a little Japanese school girl", he's been having sex with me and in the middle says to me that I look "so young" and has also said "I'm going to pretend you're really drunk at a party". I find it difficult to square away these things he's said during sex. I was abused as a child so being told I look so young and he's imaging me as a little Japanese school girl is maybe a sensitive topic for me. I really disliked his "drunk at a party" fantasy because to me it sounds weird. Im not sure if this is normal or not. As maybe I find it disturbing for my own personal reasons along with struggling with our age gap as it is... ive asked him and he says it's fantasy talk and he won't do it again. I just feel weird about his fantasies now...

How would you feel about your partner saying these things to you during sex?

Hello to all the replies. Since this happened I began to get the ball rolling with moving into a new place however it was a slow process. Today I finally got myself a new place for me and my princess.

Since I wrote this post things got a lot worse while I was living with him. He became very controlling and manipulative, he wouldn't let me out unless he was with me. He threatened to drive me and all my stuff somewhere and leave me there because we weren't having sex. He door blocked me multiple times. This was the worst relationship I've ever been through... I've been through hard things but mentally this was the worst. My whole family were concerned and I felt scared as it felt ominous... I appreciate the warning messages that you guys gave me as I felt validated in the red flags I kept getting. I felt like I couldn't talk to anyone and my friends would tell me they felt like I was in a prison. I've learnt so much from this.. thank you again for your comments. Looking forward to my freedom

Congratulations on getting out! Be warned, he may try to get you back, and he may get nasty. Stay strong and use your support network if necessary.

So glad you managed to get out ilove have you managed to keep your whereabouts secret? Blocked him altogether?
As liara says, brace yourself for him trying to wear you down. What a disgusting creep. Urggh.

well done OP for getting out x

Well done love

Well done to you OP for getting yourself and your DD out. Cut all contact with him and don't let him back in your life ever, on any terms. You deserve so much better.

And from one abuse survivor to another, I hope you have had or will consider getting some counselling to help you realise how worthy of good things/a good and happy life you are

well done OP, you've done the right thing for your daughter. Does he know where you are?

And do you have support?

Please, please do not date again, even casually, until you get some serious counselling and do a lot of work on your self-esteem (do the Freedom Programme, too) because abusers target vulnerable people like you .