Has anyone come on here for advice about their DP & left the relationship??

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Bit of a random one but am really intrigued to know if anyone has come on here asking for advice whether to leave their DP & actually gone through with it??

If so, how long ago & how has life been since??

Also, if anyone decided to stay how's it been??

I'm safe hells he's never touched me and the strops and the put downs haven't touched me since I made plans to leave. I've opened a bank account applied for housing,worked out any benefit entitlements and I'm slowly moving my stuff (he's not having my books ) I've saved (and fed him cheaply instead) so I have a cushion and I'm excited now. Hoping to be divorced before my 30th wedding anniversary anyway.

Il be really honest, I expected a few to say they knew of someone but this thread ending on around 5 replies!

On some threads I sense posters get frustrated when an op doesn't leave straight away live on the thread. But who knows what happens after and as this thread shows, it might take some women a year or two but the advice they receive has still helped them in the meantime.

Not me but I was able to help a friend when I became aware her relationship was abusive. I don't think she was aware of how abusive, the fact that a relationship can be violent without hitting and things like financial and emotional abuse.

I was able to signpost her to women's aid and some other resources thanks to MN.

She's left the cunt now and she's very happy with someone else. For a while I genuinely feared for her safety. So I at least am very grateful for many of the threads - even if it didn't benefit the OP of the thread directly they did help someone.

I also may well not have recognised the abuse for what it really was without MM.

I did and I didnt ltb.
I left after mumsnet advice, then I went back and now im getting a divorce also on mumsnet advice.

Everything I was told about leaving , I kinda knew already but it was shocking to read when I had been hiding the truth from myself and everyone. Just today I said to someone I dont consider myself a battered woman but that what I was but only after she had confided in me first. Ive only told one friend some of it as I have never been fully honest except here on mumsnet.

If I didnt have mumsnet I would still be married and I have cursed mumsnet and been overjoyed to have mumsnet, I swing from one to the other.

My threads are recent as im still struggling to believe im getting a divorce but yes my husband could have killed me. Im still in a fog though and I still feel Id take him back in my weaker moments so im doing the freedom programme in person now instead of online like before I had left.

It takes time and some posters seem to get angry when we dont ltb as quick but this is hard to do. Easier said than done.

After saying all that mumsnet has saved my life and my dds, so to all the posters that helped and continue to help as just reading the amazing advice on the (far too many) threads of women dealing with abusive partners and husbands is helpful.

to you all.

Yup
Posting on here opened my eyes to what a shitty, narcissistic, manipulative cunt my H was.
LTB, but it took a few years.

I've been helped towards it - like others, a few threads looking at small aspects and then when I was ready I borrowed some self belief! I'm so grateful to the posters that helped me, especially Kr1stina and Offred.

I started hanging out in Relationships while I was still with my ex, and I read a lot. i don't think I ever posted properly about what was going on, because I knew what you would all say .

So no, MN didn't get me to leave, but it did help me see the light.

Like a pp I've just looked at my old threads. It feels so strange to think it was me writing that, and strange that I put up with it. I think he changed me and I don't think I'm back to normal yet after four years.

I did after posting under s different name.
I asked for advice about my dh, not knowing then what I know now.
Posters helped me see what my ex was doing and it really opened my eyes.
Until then I just thought something was a bit' off' with my ex h. Posters gave me their opinion and I found out ex was having an affair.
I did give him a second chance but it didn't work out so I left.