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Who has had children after 34?

75 replies

Wanttobeloved · 14/02/2017 10:16

Hi all,

I post on here quite a bit. I am interested in people out there who have split up or have been single around 33/34 and have had children later in life!

If you had children later where you worried about having them later? If so what were you worried about?

What made you decide to have them later in life?

OP posts:
Lemonylemon · 14/02/2017 10:19

I had DS when I was 34. In my 40's I met DD's father and had DD at 44 :)

Terryscombover · 14/02/2017 10:22

I had DD at 37 and DS at 40.

TooMuchNoiseInHere · 14/02/2017 10:25

I had a traumatic LTR split at 32. Then met my DH, had DD at 34 & DS at 40.

flumpybear · 14/02/2017 10:26

Didn't change relationship but we had kids when i was 36 then 40

NotTheBelleoftheBall · 14/02/2017 10:28

DD was born two days before my 37th birthday. She was always planned to be an only - but I reckon I could squeeze another couple into the next eight or so years if I wanted to.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 14/02/2017 10:29

Same relationship, but married at 30. First baby at 32, then subsequent babies at 34 and 36. Just wasn't ready before that timescale.

Cwtchythings · 14/02/2017 10:32

My ex walked out when I was 32, I'm now in a far better relationship at 36 and our baby is due in 6 weeks. Splitting up at 32 turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me.

TinyDancer69 · 14/02/2017 10:34

I had my DS when I was 43. Best thing that ever happened to me 😊 It was hard and tiring and his DF was a cheat. We split when DS was 2....and I've never looked back!

TheSnowFairy · 14/02/2017 10:36

Married at 28, DS1 at 30, DS2 at 32, DD at 36.

Took longer to conceive each time.

paddypants13 · 14/02/2017 10:37

Ds was born when I was 34 going on 35. Easy pregnancy, quick easy (as easy as childbirth gets anyway) and healthy baby.

fuzzywuzzy · 14/02/2017 10:39

Split with ex at 29, took a long time for me to be in a place where I could let anyone into my life again.

Expecting baby in May, I turned 39 this year. Having a baby was a joint decision dp doesn't have dc and I want him to have his own dc.

Worries; I was worried about the higher risks associated with having dc as an older mother, doctors and midwives don't seem to think it's too old tho & so far this pregnnacy has been uneventful thankfully.

I have experienced several mc tho and I can't think it's any reason other than my age.

paddypants13 · 14/02/2017 10:39

I didn't have children in my 30s by choice, I just hadn't met the right person. I didn't worry about having problems but I am a bit blase.

Greaterexpectations · 14/02/2017 10:43

Love this thread!

Cricrichan · 14/02/2017 10:47

Had 3 kids after that age. Split with my first's father at 35.

MetalMidget · 14/02/2017 10:49

I'm 36 and have a six month old baby. I wasn't single though, I've been with my husband for over 10 years.

I was never sure if I wanted kids - I had a whole host of worries and hangups due to my own mother, and valued my independence and career.

My husband became quite keen on having a child, and after moving to a much better company and working through my family issues, I decided to give it a go. I don't regret leaving until now - I'm well established in my industry, we're financially comfortable, and we've had a lot of lovely couple time. I was ready to share. :)

MiddleAgedMother · 14/02/2017 10:54

Started mid 30s and had last at 42!!
It's great.
Was a tad concerned in reception but .... I'm not the oldest mother in the school year!! There are a few late 30/early 40s.

Katedotness1963 · 14/02/2017 10:54

Due to infertility it took 14 years before our first child came along. I had him at 36 and his brother at 38. I had no worries about it but did have a few people tell me I was selfish for having them so late as I was likely to die before they grew up...Confused Shock

EighthElement · 14/02/2017 10:58

36 and 38 is only about 4 years later than 'the average' woman I would have thought!

LurkinMerkin · 14/02/2017 11:08

Not 109% your criteria for responding but wanted to share Grin Met hubby at 27, married at 32, now I'm 35 and we are 6 weeks away from giving birth to our first DD. Various geographic, health etc issues meant it just wasn't the right time for us before now. Took a few months to conceive once we put our minds ( and bits) to it, but it happened ( we didn't know if it would!) the Pregnancy has been pretty straightforward despite the need for a csection due to my previous surgeries. I have a number of friends who were single in their mid/late 30s who have met mr/mrs right and gone on to have beautiful babies. Xx

babyinthacorner · 14/02/2017 11:08

Had babies at 32 and 36, married at 30. Laughed at having the over 35 box ticked on my maternity notes during labour, then had a lovely easy birth and then bounced back to (99%) normal fitness within 2 months. Much easier than my first birth at 32 Grin
Friends have had babies in their 40s - one had IVF the other had existing medical problems, but both got there and are now very happy Mums.

ElfingHeck · 14/02/2017 11:09

Single at 34. DH and I got together at 35. Had 3 kids between 36 and 40.

All good :)

LurkinMerkin · 14/02/2017 11:10

@kate..... seriously?! Who are these people that think it's appropriate to say things like that. Any of us could pop off at any time. I hope you told them to eff off! X

WTAF2016 · 14/02/2017 11:52

Newly single and 34 here so it's nice to read these!!

Aoibhe · 14/02/2017 11:56

Most of the other mums of my dd's reception class are 40ish, so it's the norm in my area to have them at 35+.

TheApprentice · 14/02/2017 12:03

Married at nearly 37 then some fertility issues so had ds1 at 3 and ds2 at 41. No problems. Am approaching 50 now but everyone thinks I'm much younger . In part I think because of the ages of my boys! They were so worth waiting for.