Am I losingthe plot or is he filling my head full of sh*t

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Long thread, please bare with to grasp the issue...

Dp of a year, live together, my place, he moved in with me (covering in case I get asked)

A while back (couple of months or so) he called somebody (randoms stranger out in public) a hefferlump (unsure how to spell sorry) and I said please don't call anybody personal names like that, it sounds awful and I really don't like it, sounded nasty as far as I was concerned. I got a sorry I won't do that again etc he said he was unsure of the meaning so I filled him in on that (basically told him my understanding was a baby elephant so I assumed he was calling this person fat)

Fast forward to tonight, a lady drove a little erratic around my car (I was driving he was passenger) I said silly women, he said hefferlump! I said I told you about using that word? It sounds disgusting coming from your mouth, why you calling people fat? He said Ooooh is that what it means? (Assuming he had absolutely no understanding of the word) I said yeah you knew that! (I raised an eyebrow) he said I thought it meant baby elephant (

So you called her a silly woman implying shes unintelligent but youre annoyed he called her a name implying she's fat? No difference, apart from that your projecting.

OP, I think you are overreacting a little. But I see your point about name-calling fat people. And he clearly forgot that this was something you don't tolerate, then lied to try to get out of it.

In my book, lying to defend a bad position in an argument is worse than being oversensitive (for perfectly good reasons) about body shaming language.

So on balance, I'm with you, not him.

Notarehearsal - I think You may want to read Lougle's statement again....

You aren't hard work, he is. Ignore that poster saying it's you. You expressed your wishes, your boundary around that word and he is ignoring it and laughing when you are angry shows a very sadistic streak of someone who has no regard for angering or upsetting you. His whole attitude is anti women and not helped by you going stupid woman. Just say stupid driver, their gender should be irrelevant.