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Dp really is an utter twat. Discuss.

101 replies

midlifehope · 11/02/2017 21:38

Dp has just had a go at my this evening for an incident that happened this morning where HE jumped on the bonnet of MY car as I was rolling down the drive to go somewhere. I had the kids in with me who saw all this. I got to the bottom of the drive and stopped and motioned for him to get off, which he did and I carried on driving.

Tonight he started a viscous argument where he had the audacity to blame me for going too fast while he was on my bonnet. WHY THE ACTUAL FUCK get on the bonnet of a moving car in the first place - freaking out a mother of 2 small kids, and being a terrible role model in terms of safe behaviour?????

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Foxysoxy01 · 11/02/2017 22:30

Honestly in the heat of the moment I would have probably gone faster thinking I would teach him a lesson for being a knob. Blush

Megatherium · 11/02/2017 22:32

If he claims it was just a joke, tell him that you were only joking by carrying on down the drive.

Blackbird82 · 11/02/2017 22:32

He doesn't sound of sound mind.....

diddl · 11/02/2017 22:38

That's weird.

He actually jumped onto the bonnet??

What a well twat!

Why would anyone do that?

Imagine if you had injured him?

Did you ask him why he did it?

YouWillNotSeeMe · 11/02/2017 22:39

You need to think about what else he does and how he behaves, this doesn't sound like an isolated event.

Hurleygirl123 · 11/02/2017 22:42

Get shot of him for kids sake..and yours.

MilesHuntsWig · 11/02/2017 22:55

He sounds like an utter loon. Run for the hills.

KatieScarlett · 11/02/2017 22:57

Who does that?
What a total knob.

RaisinsAndApple · 11/02/2017 22:59

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HeavenlyEyes · 11/02/2017 23:04

why are you with him?

BillyDaveysDaughter · 11/02/2017 23:09

Bit weird. I need more context to judge the level of twattishness, however...bit stupid to jump on the bonnet no matter what the motivation.

MixedGrill · 11/02/2017 23:13

"He has stormed off to bed in a huff after saying I could have killed HIM? WTAF?"

Well he has a point, you could have killed him. Better luck next time.

SolomanDaisy · 11/02/2017 23:13

I can't even picture this happening. He just ran up and jumped on the bonnet of your moving car?

neonrainbow · 11/02/2017 23:16

Why the fuck are you exposing your kids to this toxic relationship?

You could have actually killed him. Whether he should have been on the bonnet or not, you certainly shouldn't have continued to drive with him on there. You sound as bad as each other and your kids are stuck in the middle watching all this bullshit going on.

Creampastry · 12/02/2017 07:03

Are you divorcing him? If not, why not?

Isetan · 12/02/2017 09:14

Take a step back! Stop asking why he's a twat and start asking, why the hell you haven't made the decision to limit your children's exposure to his twattery.

This shocking incident should be a catalyst for you to change the environment that your children are growing up in and if it isn't, then you are complicit in the toxicity they are being exposed to.

Whatever the power struggle is between you and your husband, it is no longer between just the two of you.

Original poster
midlifehope · 12/02/2017 09:24

we have a joint mortgage and finances. Otherwise I would be out in a heartbeat

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user1486669405 · 12/02/2017 09:27

Did the neighbours see?

AttilaTheMeerkat · 12/02/2017 09:28

Those are no reasons to stay, nowhere near good enough reasons. You have also written about him at some length before. Is he still in possession of his boat?. Nothing has really changed and it will not either as long as you remain together. You are still with him and for your own reasons.

What are your children going to remember about their own childhoods?

Flipthebirdy · 12/02/2017 09:45

The neighbours must be chuckling to themselves.

Did the kids ask eerr what is daddy doing??

ChuckSnowballs · 12/02/2017 09:49

we have a joint mortgage and finances. Otherwise I would be out in a heartbeat

Yes I see your point because nobody has ever left an abusive person because their mortgage and finances are joint.

Or have they?

You need to separate the finances and get advice on the mortgage and get out before it is you he is jumping on.

PollytheDolly · 12/02/2017 09:55

Good grief.

I'd have sped up then hit the brakes, see how far you could catapult him.

Seriously though, that's beyond fucknugget behaviour.

SecondsLeft · 12/02/2017 09:58

If you know you want out, then start planning, don't make excuses.

mummytime · 12/02/2017 09:59

Get some legal advice.

Babymamamama · 12/02/2017 10:01

I don't think there is enough background to understand why he jumped on the car. Did he have something he wanted to say and you were off regardless. Why didn't you stop the car when he jumped on? What if he had rolled off and you had run him over. Does he normally pull ridiculous pranks like this. Was the manner of what he did playful or angry? Either way there seems to be more to it and yes if he's controlling then do something about it.

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