Sleeping with new partner... embarrassing problem!

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So I've been seeing a wonderful man for a few months. I really want to sleep with him but I've Ben putting it off as I have an embarressing problem.

I have an enlarged labia while dangles down on one side. When I'm standing up it sticks out like a bloody tongue! I have to tuck it in.
I think he will be so turned off if he goes down on me that he will not want to sleep with me again.

I've looked into surgery but it's so bloody expensive, but I do know that I want to have it done for my own self esteem.

Can I ask, do most women have lovely bits and are happy to be naked with their partner or are most of us a bit dangly? I just wonder whether he would have had previous girlfriends with the same issue.

Help!

Two things.

Are you worried about the size of his penis or how it looks?

He's being honest about the herpes. Honesty is a good thing. It's no big deal, but he will have sores on his penis (was a deal breaker for me, to be honest).

He may well be hoping to find the one.

I would much rather have big labia than herpes OP

www.labialibrary.org.au

Link is NSFW, btw.

Also google the "Great Wall of Vagina", made by an artist local to me.

You shouldn't be throwing the condoms out with a new partner until you've a) made the decision to be exclusive with each other and b) you've both had a full clear STI screen.

Condoms (although you should be using them anyway) do not protect you from herpes. If he doesn't have an outbreak when you have sex (and it doesn't need to be penetrative to catch it) it's unlikely you will contract it from him.

Guys will be far more interested in the sex than worrying about the appearance of your foof!

Most people have hangy labia - lady bits don't generally look like the ones you see in films and porn mags.

Use condoms!

Lanka will be no issue with the right guy and good he was honest about heroes but it is the offer issue and other potential STDs...