This is a bit hard to describe, so please bear with me!
Been with my partner for three years, and whereas our relationship is mostly good, we've had a few problems and whenever I've attempted to discuss any of it with him, he MASSIVELY overreacts.
For example, he put a couple of photos up of me on the dreaded Facebook (nothing dodgy, just awful photos of me looking extremely tired and unwell when I had the flu), and then changed the settings so that I couldn't see them, but others could. I found out via a mutual friend, and asked him to delete them. He went ballistic, deleted every single photo of me off his profile, and asked me to delete every photo of mine that he has every taken off me.
Another example, I found out a couple of years ago that he'd been sexting another woman. When I asked him it, he got very angry, said there was nothing to discuss, and threatened to leave me as (in his words) I obviously didn't trust him.
There was an inccident when he kept going on and on us doing something in bed that I really didn't want to do. He eventually wore me down, we did it and halfway through I begged him to stop. He didn't. I was extremely upset the next day, he again became very angry, accused me of sulking, said that had simply got "carried away"and that maybe he should just not touch me at all, if I was going to react in such a way.
He's manipulating me isn't he? I feel like I can't broach any subject with him, because he just gets over the top angry, and twists it all around so I have end up feeling guilty. I feel like at times like this he enjoys playing mind games with me.
He is very loving, attentive and good company most of the time, which is why it makes it all the more confusing! Does he over react because he KNOWS he is the wrong?
Does anyone else have experience of this?