Not sure how to feel , what would you think ?

[moonie70]

Invited my boyfriend over tonight and had a meal and watched tv , not seen him since sat night and he said he had been missing lots.
I was expecting he'd be looking forward to having a cuddle in bed , fall asleep together , I don't mean just sex , then he would go to work in the morning from my house .
I have a pre teenage daughter who was watching tv in my bed , and I said I'll just go up and tell her to go get ready and get in her own bed .
To which my bed said it's ok leave her I don't want to rock the boat let her stay in your bed I'll sleep in hers I'm up early anyway .
Well I've never felt so rejected I just said yeah ok if you want to.
We brushed our teeth he went in her bed and I went in mine .
I'm lay here thinking gang it's only been a few weeks , wouldn't you think we would be at the can't keep my hands of you stage not the sleep in separate room stage .
My daughter was baffled to and said why I'll get in my own bed.
In his last relationship he mentioned they slept in separate beds as they had drifted apart .
The back story is I've known him since we were kids growing up , mutual friends , family know each other , after his last relationship ended he was single for a few years and asked me out every few months for most of them years till I said yes.
I know he smokes weed on occasion and tonight I just felt he was done how detached and quiet not his usual self .
If this is a sign of things to come then I'm starting to think we're not compatable .
how would any of you feel in my position or am I over thinking this ?

What an odd question...and relationships

Stepping away from what has been said already. Rape jokes would really put me me off...but it sounds like he has has not been overly concerned about a sexual relationship in previous ones, so this isn't you.Don't take it personally. It sounds like it isn't a priority for him, for whatever reason. If this is important for you, and it sounds like it is (it would be for me) then you may need to re-think the situation, for this and other reasons.

Definitely over thinking it! He sounds thoughtful!!!! My new guy hasn't slept in my bed as my toddlers are always in there. I said I'd move them and he said "don't disturb them, we can move the sofas together and sleep down here". That won him brownie points!

I think you are confusing child protection advice with being judgmental.

I wouldn't feel comfortable with someone sleeping in my child's bed - just a bit ick.

Also perhaps if you are a bit sensitive then best to stay away from Internet forums.

i would say you are over thinking it. This is a guy youve known for years and is a family friend? So what if he sleeps in the daughters bed, one she hardly sleeps in. I know so many people who have bustling families and they bunk in anywhere. Perhaps you think you know the guy given hes been in your circle for most of your life, even if limited, yet you need to get to know the real him. He may be moody or just need a lot of his own space. I wouldnt over think it since hes not someone youve just met ...