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Can you report this to police, repeated poking?

You sit down, they poke you with their first finger, hard, in the side, keep doing it even though you say not to?

I guess not it doesnt. Sound that bad now I've written it down. But it hurts.

I think he'd be careful not to leave marks, Zippy. He wants the rest of the world to see something different to the reality; marks would make them see what their marriage was like.

Op we are giving our time and support freely and gladly.

Read imperial's post again. You don't need a formal reason to leave. Or s legal case. Or even a bruise. You can just leave because you want to because he is s vile controlling bully

The exit stragtigy does not need to be her leaving.

It could just as well be her making him exit

This is horrible, it's giving me the rage just thinking about it, what a bully.

What are your circumstances, do you have children together, do you own or rent a house?

You can end a relationship anytime for any reason.

It's giving me the rage just reading this. Just like I absolutely despise being tickled I would also hate his poking. Who the fuck does that and not expect a kick in the groin?

NeedsAsockamnesty, that's true. It makes me furious to think she has to leave her own home to live in peace.

People always jump in and say leave.

It makes me cross, it's further punishing usually women and children for men's bad behaviour.

We have some very good systems in place for victims to remain in their own homes and often it can be a lot safer than them leaving

When I suggested leaving, I meant leaving while she got a lawyer to sort things out. I wouldn't suggest leaving home and never returning, especially in this sort of situation.

If the damage being done is very subtle and affecting her mental health, then I think removing herself from the situation would do her a world of good if she had someone trustworthy to stay with.

Step one : select dressing gown.
Step two : select fork to keep in said dressing gown pocket.
Step three :remove fork at prodding moments.
Step four :insert fork into the closest area of dh.
Step five : relax.

I think on MN "leave" is short hand for "get him out of your life"

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Yes, that is really, really, stupid advice, ilove.

I hVe asked him to leave, I am absolutely numb

What was his response, op?

OP he sounds cruel and no you aren't overreacting!

Meerkat, there is loads of time and patience for you here, and the other posters have experience in how to do it. They know what to think about, how to do it.

All I can offer is a hand hold, and best wishes. Stay brave, keep safe.

It's ok he's gone to a premier inn I think he broke the door but it was an accident. The door has been stiff for ages.

Well done. Are you ok?

Ok. That's a good start. Is there someone who can stay with you and give you a bit of moral support?

I'm worried, I can see this escalating given the poking and then the broken door.

Do you have anyone who can come and stay with you?

Please, don't worry. He won't do anything. I know him.

Don't disregard the broken door. It hasn't broken before, has it?

I'm glad he's gone and given you some space. Do you have anyone who could come around?

No, don't have anybody ... it's ok from a safety point of view as there's a porch so I've locked that. Not that he'll do anything. I know him, that isn't his style at all.