Wife who cannot answer Yes or No to any question

[Stewart2017]

Sounds trivial I know, but my wife just cannot (will not) answer yes or no. Ever.
And it turns minor disputes into big arguments daily. And needlessly.

Example tonight - kid kicks off bad behaviour with mum, it's getting very aggressive and I run upstairs quickly to deal strictly with young teenager. Kid continues on at me, and my wife then criticises me for causing issue!

Clearly untrue, and son seizes on this and torments and name calls me. I ask my wife is she genuinely thinks it was my fault, and I get a "don't know" or "you are ruining the night" when I feel the opposite.
Aggrieved I keep asking calmly does she really think it my fault, and asking for a yes or no to clear up any misunderstanding.

We then argue while kid laps it all up and laughing. This is no way to act in front of kid and why on earth am I being blamed.
She just will never answer a straight question. No matter how basic.

This is daily. Earlier today I asked "shall I pick up milk when I'm out?"
She'll answer "mind phone your Dad"
Yeah I will. But do we need milk?
She'll answer after about 5 attempts at question "I don't know"
Shall I come back inside and check fridge?
She'll answer "just go!"
OK, but do we need milk yes or no?
..... and on and on.

Sounds trivial writing get it down, but it is driving me bonkers.
She is intelligent and holds down a decent job. She not ill or anything.
Just seems utterly bizarre that no matter the question she cannot answer clearly. Ever.

[Thingsdogetbetter]

@mrmack54. You revived a 2 year old thread to suggest game playing for amusement? Really?

[mrmack54]

Yes...

[AFistfulofDolores1]

Methinks @mrmack54 is a man whose sense of disempowerment is betrayed by his desire for control.

[mrmack54]

Thankyou.......

[pitman5]

I have the same experiences here at home. My wife finds it totally impossible to answer a yes or no question. In my mind it it not answering that is a way to push my buttons. I find it to work just as well when she asks a question. Just answer her with all sorts of B/S which has nothing to do with the question. A little bit of this routine will make her understand where you are coming from.

[Thingsdogetbetter]

@pitman5. Two year old thread - probably resolved now one way or another.

Zombie

[Tiny2018]

By what you said it sounds like you are the domineering type, and have to be in the right.
Your wife was not happy with how you engaged with your teenager, and by the sounds of it, rather than realise you were in the wrong and apologise, you've continued to dominate via your questioning.
She probably scared to say the wrong thing tbh, I feel sorry for her.

[deste]

What I learned in one of my jobs is that if you don’t make a decision, you don’t make a mistake. Is she scared to make mistake and arguing in front of your children was a big mistake but I’m sure you know that now.