Something bothered me about new man...

[Peppalpaca]

I have started 'seeing' a man (met online, i've only met up with him in real life once, we speak a lot)

We have a second date arranged soon

While speaking today he called a guilty pleasure of mine 'shit' (admittedly it's not the most intellectual of pursuits but i enjoy it none the less)

This has bothered me, but I have been a little stressed throughout the day so it could be pms coming on as i do get stressed when that comes.

Is it normal to be bothered by that? It has lessened my opinion of him somewhat. I don't go around calling things that he likes shit that I don't like (just met so i'm on my best behaviour). Is there a chance he could be flirting? I just don't know what to think so I'd really appreciate the help before I slow things down with him. I don't think he should be getting some comfy so quickly as to call what I like shit?

Sorry if haven't come across very mature

Having seen your last post I think you should definitely end it with him.

If you have issues maintaining your own boundaries it probably isn't a good idea to be dating yet.

But then if you want to continue I think you should be a bit precious TBH as otherwise and without boundaries you'll be really vulnerable.

DP calls most of what I like to watch shit, but loves football so I tell him all the time that it's utter shit. It's nothing to be upset about

If it was a long term partner it wouldn't have bothered me. I feel he's getting comfy far too quickly.

We're meeting in person again in a couple of days (second date) maybe he'll be better in person. Last time he did talk an awful lot about himself. He might just be socially awkward as pp mentioned

Hmm, to be honest, I don't think uou need to know someone well to say a tv show is shit, if someone said it to me, even a stranger I'd laugh and if it was true, I'd agree and laugh. I have a friend who likes to watch proper shit on tv, the most random obscure crap programs that I'm sure no one else ever watches, everyone tells her she likes watching shit and she happily acknowledges it. For me, it's a throw away jokey comment.

I think you're being a bit up tight if I'm honest.

-Talked a lot about himself on first meeting
-Called something you enjoy watching Shit
-You are still building boundaries

Nahh. Don't bother dating him. Stay friends.

Also, "I think he's getting comfy far too quickly"

Build up those boundaries.

...Me again!
There's things on TV I think are rubbish but wouldn't call it Shit to someone who enjoyed it. I watch things other people dislike.
A friend told me I should "turn that crap off" when I was talking about my current favorite show. I realized, I wouldn't have dreamt of speaking to herlike that! And she watches something I think is really dull

It's rude and disrespectful. It is, and I'm not an easily offended person! It speaks volumes about a persons character.

I've Just been reading up on what being uptight means and that's definitely me. I'll see if I can work on it there's some advice online on how to relax

Teepish yeah I'm the same I try and appreciate everyone's points of view and interests and if I think it's shit I'll try and understand what they like about it to gain some common ground