SAHMs - what do you get from your dps?

[puffling]

Thinking of giving up work to look after dd who's now 11 months. Have read SAHM thread to see if I should or should not be put off the idea.
DP and I have discussed how much he should give me. At the moment, we're saying he'll pay for all bills, car and food and he'll give me £300 a month. Obviously, I will end up paying for things from the chemist, her clothes etc.
Does all this sound reasonable? What arrangements do you have? If you don't mind me asking?

we have joint acc, all bills and ccards are in my name only and I pay for everything, dh just has to go out and earn it
i do let him have a small weekly allowance but that's about it {grin]

Joint account - dh has an agreed amount to spedn each year on his hobby and I spend the rest.

Joint acc, and we have a weekly budget for shopping n stuff, but everything out of the one account, easiest way. We are happy!

joint account too

yep we do joint account too. we always have, since we started going out really. for a long time I earned more than him, now I earn dick all but we both have the same lifestyle - it would be so odd otherwise,

We have joint account, but then both have separate 'pocket money' accounts which we both have the same set amount paid into each month. Oh, and I get Child Benefit paid to me, but this tends to be swallowed up by baby related expenses...

...and gin

now I earn dick all but we both have the same lifestyle - it would be so odd otherwise

EXACTLY Harpsi

lol at fio
yes I get creme eggs from my dh on the way home
and sex if I put in advance request

DH will sort out sex but only if I sort out some form of childcare first

Mr HC "is that dd2 crying I can hear?"
HC "no! definitely not!"

we must be everso old fashioned then. i'm now full time sahm (tho i do fit in freelance projects on top of the sahm when they come up). aaanyway dh pays for everything obviously but we have a joint account where we put baby money, holiday and house improvment money plus tax credits - then we both have our own accounts where we have our own leisure allowances to use as we please. i like it this way cos then I feel i can budget more effectively and plan treats - so if i fancy a clothes spree then i can see clearly how much is to spare just for that - i think if it was all rolled into one then it'd be more difficult to make that call. But then alas alac we are no longer cash rich as i'm not a regular earner at the mo.' Oh and i get given the money to sort out the foodshop - and if i can make savings then the extra's mine. Sad but i quite like that sort of self set challenge - I miss my old spreadsheets I guess!! xx

Same as MorningPaper. Joint account that everything goes into and comes out of, we each have £x "pocket money" each month and anything spare goes into savings.

Can't imagine being given an allowance!. I remember my mum saying things like "I owe your dad £x" or "he owes me £x". Just sounded strange to me.

think puffling was winding us up with her op

she hasn't come back has she?

We live in pre-history. Pigs would fly before dh would agree to a joint account. The very idea makes me psml.

I agree with alot of the replies...it from my nan's era to be given "house keeping" money tbh, joint account is the only way from my point of view.

Joint account here too. Just don't understand couples who don't share everything.

Don't really get the whole being "given" money idea
DH is able to go to work as I am staying home with DS. He earns therefore he pays for everything. No allowance here I just spend as I please ifswim

we have a joint bank account - bills, mortgage and large expenses come from that then dh and I have a set amount of 'pocket money' each week to spend on ourselves or the dds. If more pocket money is needed then we can access it if needed.

So puffling - are you having us on? Because it sounds positively Dickensian

IMO I have the best of both worlds, DH and I have a joint account and I also have my own account. I work for/with my DH (we have our own business) and I have a salary paid into my account that I use for food shopping, kids clothes, my own clothes, gym membership, my coffee shop and magazine habit. I also have the joint account (although I rarely use it). DH pays all the other bills and has roughly the same amount of money as I do for clothes etc (although you wouldn't know it as he rarely spends it on clothes). I am fully aware of income and outgoings.

The bottom line for us is that it helps us budget.

If there is spare money (ha!) on the go we would either decide what to do with it jointly (jobs in the house, holiday etc) or we would split it between us and have a treat.