Dd has met daddy's girlfriend.

[Teepish]

I asked her if she enjoyed the fireworks last night. She said yes, and so did X (the gf). She said she met daddy's friend X at Christmas. She said she put plaits in her hair for her and the three of them went to the soft play.

Its been less than 6 months since we Dh and I parted. X was the other OW. I found out that Dh was having a full blown relationship with her behind my back for months, all his work colleagues knew. She is also a work colleague.
She has net Dh's family and been out with them. I am but a mere memory now.
I am very happy to be split from him and his family but this new piece if news and hurt me. I knew it was going to happen eventually....but it hurts and stings.

I feel so very, very alone.

This is the issue, the guy moves on and finds someone new....this person is "the one", he tells himself he won't have a relationship like his last, he won't cheat on her like his last....this is it now, he's going to change and be a better person & then the relationship becomes boring, stale, a few arguments....and the cycle begins again.

It's sad and pathetic that men think so highly of themselves that they actually believe they can change.

My ex treated his ex gf like shit, he EA her, he cheated on her. Eventually he left her for the person he cheated on her for! It took that poor girl a year to get back to who she was.

Him and the OW split after 6 months and him trying to make me believe it was just a rebound, I told him hundreds of times that it can only be a rebound if he decided to start sleeping with her AFTER him and his gf split, not before!

Then along came muggings here, again, he treated me like shit.....EA me throughout, told me he wanted everything with me, a house, marriage and family....then came the "taking the phone everywhere with him" & changing his passcode, stupid me didn't think he'd do it to me!

Where's he gone?? Off with ANOTHER woman, having left me 25 weeks pregnant with his son, he hasn't even contacted me to check is all going well.

I hope he doesn't leave her in the same way, however I feel he makes a habit of this! Except the baby bit.

Sorry! Just chucking my rant in too, gets me through the day!

User148 I'm shocked at that, really shocked that is so cruel

Wynter he sounds an absolute arsehole I can't believe it. I actually hope dh treats his gf like shit eventually and tries to control her because if he doesn't, I was the problem
He could "never remember" stuff about how previous relationships ended for him. I actually suspect now that he hasn't actually broken up with his gf before me properly. He told me he had.

It's upsetting that people can mess with other people's heads like that....it makes me really angry.

Oh he is, he was a prick with me & all his exes.....no doubt an absolute wanker to the new woman. Oh how I'd love to hear what shit he has spouted to her about me! That poor girl hasn't a bloody clue!

If your ex doesn't treat his gf like shit, it doesn't mean it was you....it probably means she isn't standing for his shit at all, give it time

It doesn't sound like you had many happy years of marriage TBH and I think him leaving was the right thing for both of you.

I understand that his lack of help brought resentment, because I've felt that way too. It seems like you don't want to have sex, but when you have an unhelpful man, who doesn't cherish and appreciate you, it's hard to want sex with him.

Your not fridgid, you just don't have an emotional or sexual connection with that kind of man. I've no doubt if a caring, loving, non selfish man had come your way, you'd actually have wanted to have sex back then.

Please try and pick up your confidence and show your DD you can do it.

The best revenge to a cheat is living well and upgrading to a better model.

We didn't even manage 2 years of marriage Sandy. It was a big mistake, I so regret getting married.

I just couldn't get close to him. In hindsight I should have dumped him after the first few months but instead I stuck with him, blamed myself for us falling out, blamed myself for feeling like a misery when I was with him sometimes...for some reason he proposed and well I was over the moon. Wish I knew why now. Think I thought that was what love was.
We were irresponsible and I became pregnant. Raising a child together should never have been on our agenda, or marriage.
I feel so stupid.
I've never been in a good relationship.

Teepish I feel your pain, My STBXW introduced my 3 kids to the OM after 3 months! He died a month later and within 5 weeks she had a new BF and introduced my kids to him after 2 months...Then when I had the nerve to express my opinion on how soon she did this (Both times) I was accused of "Not wanting her to be happy!"

They well and truly suck...Your ex simply has no empathy, put this together with him being a selfish, entitled cheating bastard and you might well have yourself someone who has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) or at the very least someone who displays narcissism.

I found a lot of my answers reading about NPD.

www.cheating-infidelity.com/Home/narcissism/narcissistic-personality-disorder-how-to-recognize-a-narcissist.html

www.chumplady.com is also an excellent site for dealing with a cheater and all the shite they put you through.

Best of luck

I've never been in a good relationship

You can have a good relationship with someone else moving forward. Your past doesn't define you.

Life is for living. Make a promise to yourself to be happy this year.

Micky, he died and she had a new boyf a month later?! Jesus Christ
Thanks for the links, I will have a look. He does seem to lack empathy, I've said this before. But what I don't understand is, how come he doesn't lack care and empathy for our daughter? At least I don't think he does - I don't really know how he is with her when they're together, but what do u think of this:

At home with me dd prefers to pick her own clothes to wear and refuses dresses and tights, she can be very difficult when I try to persuade her into a certain coat/warmer clothes etc.
Her dad bought her dresses and once at his house, changes straight out of her clothes from here and straight into his I'm certain he must have done some coaxing for this and I asked him why as it is unnecessary to change her like that straight away - he told me to stop picking fault with him as he was doing something nice for her - and, "with me, she always wants to wear dresses and nicer clothes as you always put her in the same thing (she picks them out herself here), so what does that tell you about how she feels about you!"

Well I just don't know, I'm confused. She can be very difficult and contrary with me.

I'm trying my hardest Sandy. I do feel better again today. Thanks again all.

I know this thread is ancient …. But an update would be so nice… how are things now op? Give some hope to those of us who are hearing about daddy’s special friend for the first time..: as I did today… ☹️