I am evil

[RainbowCrash4321]

I'm watching my daughter and partner playing together and it's so beautiful. I've been cheating on him for nearly two years.

If you're a bloke you're definitely evil. If you're a woman it's probably more complicated than that. wink

What?

What's that handy crap phrase people love spouting here... When people tell you who they really are, listen to them.

Referring to the double-standards so often applied, I think.

Yes OP, perhaps you are. Who cares? You obviously don't.

I'd go incredibly selfish and probably a bit stupid.

You could just stop and tell your DH before someone else does, because someone else knows.

Bit bored are we OP?

Thank you so much for your replies, particularly originalLEM. Selfish, entitled, self-centred - but not evil? My partner and daughter are innocent, loving, trusting, caring people.

So what are you going to do rainbow? I assume you have either opened this thread as another way to beat yourself up or you are looking to change this bad situation?

In that case, your options are:

1. Stop allowing someone who isn't your partner to put his penis into your vagina, or variations thereof, and work on your relationship. You should probably come clean too - he deserves to make the choice.

1. Realise that no matter how perfect your dh seems he isn't the man for you and allow him - and you - to move on with his life.

The current situation is no good for anyone.

Rainbow what kind of person do you think you are for having a 2 year affair?

Do you think you are trustworthy?
Loyal?
Caring?
Kind?

I am not sure what you want from this thread.

what a cliché

Why on earth did you post this?

There is no excuse for your behaviour. Stop being an arsehole and end it now.

That's nice dear.

It doesn't sound as if you are that happy op. evil no, perhaps unhappy though?

There is nothing here that suggests the OP has low self esteem.

I also don't think you're evil. Maybe you posted because you think you are and want beating with The Big Internet Stick.

But then you say you enjoy it. Do you? Really There is some guilt displayed so...maybe not so much enjoyment.

There are reasons people cheat. Have you explored yours? Fact remains that you are choosing to inflict harm on people, undeservedly or not on your partner and most certainly undeservedly on your child. If you're happy with that, then that's your choice.

What are you hoping to achieve from this thread?

It's correct tho if you were male you would be getting slated..but your a female so it's a "oopsie" moment

I thought Lem's post was kind; far too kind for you actually OP. There's no remorse there. You come across as smug with you being able 'have it all'. Go ahead, have it all. If you can look in the mirror and be happy with what you see looking back at you then great.

I won't post back on this thread because attention is what you're craving whilst you can't see OM (presumably also married?). Nothing but sad attention-seeking. Crack on then.

Stop then.

And tell your partner.

Placemarking

You sound quite close to the edge OP?

Because they both deserve better than me.

They deserve to know the truth.

You may not be evil but you certainly aren't particularly nice.

People become quite frustrated by these threads OP

Most often they trigger strong reactions from people who've been deceived as you are deceiving your husband, and then people like you get upset and defensive and others try to support you and it turns into a bun-fight

If you want help to stop/leave, then people will be able to help you