Dp going out a lot

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My dp has been out in evening 6 nights out of last 9.

This means I am left to do all bath/bed time etc. I am very pissed off.

Am I being unfair or is he? Some of them are visits to gym. I would like to go to gym, but don't have time. That pisses me off especially.

Any advice anyone?

He's being unfair.

If you'd like to go to the gym then go. If you each went every other night while the other does bed and bath, that's still 3 times a week.

On the 3 nights out of 9 he was in, did he help then, or was it left to you ?

it's unfair

Point out to him that it's unfair, and surely he could only agree?

He is always helpful when here, but I feel I never see him. If I went out as much as him, we would never see each other, so therefore, feel joining a gym for me would be a waste of money.

very pissed off

I do, but he always says he doesn't go out much, or it's a bad week. Am sick of arguing about it.

What is a fair amount of nights out per week?

i try to make sure DP and i go out together at least once a month without DS. i think seperately, once or twice a week is fine, provided you / he isn't falling through the door covered in kebab.

6 out of 9 is alot, particularly if he's missing bath / bedtime with kids.

don't know but 6 out of 9 is excessive.

A couple of times in the week? but as long as you're getting some payback yourself too.

x posts there

and we said pretty much the same thing