Is there anyone in a happy relationship?

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Sorry I am in a happy relationship for the first time in my life I have found someone I love, respect and like as a person! I also trust him which I have never trusted anyone before.

We are moving in together in the next couple of months and I am very happy and looking forward to the future.

What I'm wondering is there anyone still happy and in love with a healthy sex life many years on after the relationship has started?

On mumsnet in the relationships section there is mostly people unhappy in their relationships, I guess that because the people that are happy are don't have any problems to post about.

But it seems to me most couples I know are quite unhappy bar a few and I would love to hear stories about others that are happy in their long term relationships

Known each other two decades, been married for one.

He is my best friend.

Nope

9 years here and blissfully, vomit inducingly happy. We've never really had any downs, it's all been up, and just easy really. We just work, and bring eachother a lot of happiness. We make sure we nurture our relationship by spending lots of really good time together, and prioritising each other.

I thought love was exaggerated before I met my husband, but I honestly feel like the 'happy ever after' part of a Disney film. We've had difficult times but nothing has ever got between us - we've faced issues in live together, which helps a lot.

Very frequent breakfasts in bed don't hurt either...

I am happy. Together 19 years, married for 14. We've had bad times, even split once - lasted a few hours before we realised that somehow, no matter what went wrong, we just had to be together. We both have our faults, he is incredibly impatient and can be downright bloody rude, but he still makes me laugh every day. He is my soul mate and my best friend. And he's exceptionally good at sex.

Yep. Been together fourteen years and married for most of them. We have a lot of respect for each other which I realise I didn't have in a lot of previous relationships. I have learnt to pick my battles and so has he. We don't take life too seriously either and can laugh at ourselves and each other. Neither of us has a huge ego which helps. We have had really bad things happen to us too and our living arrangements currently leave a lot to be desired but we deliberately don't take the issues arising out on each other. If I had to have a word with my younger self it would be, 'It's not working and you know it. Get out now instead of flogging a dead horse'.

Yes, married for almost 8 years and still very much in love. Sex gets better imo! Dh is my best friend, a wonderful father and Works so hard for us (me and 2 DD). We both have flaws and ups and downs. It's been me lately who has struggled after dd2 was born but he coped with it all and tbh it makes me try harder to be better for him and to him. Love grows I think the longer you are together and I agree with other posters, we have learnt what happy looks like from our parents.

Such a lovely thread! I don't have a long term partner and my best friends are always going on about how I need to get on line and find one and then spend the rest of the night moaning about their partners!

It's lovely to read how great relationships can be!

If you think the things you read about on MN are representative of most people's experiences as a whole then you'd have a very skewed idea of what a normal life or a normal relationship looks like. You have to remember that people with problems or issues or MH problems or abisive partners or children with autism or whatever post about this things much much more than people who are happy and have no issues/worries post about having no issues or worries.

Lots of people are in very good LTRs. I have been in one for 26 years and we still like each other very much. The healthy sex life ...er...not so much, no, but we are both cool with it and you can't have everything. I'd rather have my relationship and no sex than lots of sex with a twat of a bloke who makes my life stressful.

Blissfully happy here....met my DP again after 20 years of not seeing him. We had a brief thing when we were both in our 20s then we both moved on. His relationship lasted 18 years with no kids, i ended up married for 10 and 4 kids. Met up again and I can honestly say hand on heart that he is the most amazing loving man I have ever known. He adores my children and they him. I believe that I never actually knew what love was till we met again. We are moving in together in a few months and I cannot wait for our future.

I really was but I'm starting to feel a bit Meh! at the moment.
Need to have a chat and sort this out!

Yes! 8 years together & two children.

Yes. Married for 7 years, 2 kids. Neither of us are the hearts and flowers type, but we are steadfast and love each other very much. We are best friends, and share the same ideals and goals.

This thread is making me both cry and smile. FUCKING love the stories of people being together for an eon.

I got married with stars in my eyes. 6 years later it has all gone to shit and I am bitterly disappointed.

Big cheers to all of you that are winning. X

Coming up to our 14th wedding anniversary next week. And four kids aged 7 and under. He is my best friend!

Twelve years, married for six, and still in love. We rarely argue, give each other space for hobbies / time out (his passion for F1 puzzles me!), and I'd say it's 3 things

1. we are a team
2. we say "I love you", "thank you", "please" and kiss frequently
3. don't stress the small stuff... will it matter in five years, a year, six months etc if not, don't worry. The big stuff, you'll handle as a team.