Is there anyone in a happy relationship?

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Sorry I am in a happy relationship for the first time in my life I have found someone I love, respect and like as a person! I also trust him which I have never trusted anyone before.

We are moving in together in the next couple of months and I am very happy and looking forward to the future.

What I'm wondering is there anyone still happy and in love with a healthy sex life many years on after the relationship has started?

On mumsnet in the relationships section there is mostly people unhappy in their relationships, I guess that because the people that are happy are don't have any problems to post about.

But it seems to me most couples I know are quite unhappy bar a few and I would love to hear stories about others that are happy in their long term relationships

We've been together for just over 10 years and married for 6. I'd been married before and dh had been in a rather toxic ltr so we both know what makes us unhappy and how we don't want a relationship to be.

We are very happy together, we just work. Sex isn't as frequent as when we first got together but work is more stressful and encompassing now and life gets in the way a little bit.

We cherish one another, and do small things that don't seem outwardly important but are enough to reinforce the "I love you".

My husband is fantastic. We have been together for 3 years, second marriage for both of us with the first not being great. Sex life is fantastic (i have a very high sex drive and he satisfies it ). He has taken on my 2 DDs who now consider him to be their dad. He is my best friend

Yes. Ten years together, married for nearly seven. We've never argued, we take care of each other, we have the same ideals and values.

I fancy the pants off him and we have lots of fun together.

Married ten years and very happy, but it hasn't come easily. The first 5 years were really hard, low income, family crises, mental health problems, all sorts. We had to decide to fight to make it work, had counselling for a year and worked through a lot of issues.

We're both now in jobs we enjoy and have a toddler who is exhausting but wonderful, we share all the day to day responsibilities, support each other, and really enjoy being together.

Been together 23 years. Never really had major ups and downs, still have fun in bed, still go out together and have things to talk about which aren't about the kids. I'm very fond of mil, my mother doesnt interfere. :)

All is good and we are very happy and hopefully nothing will change that!

My story doesn't count perhaps but I was very happily married for 15 years, together 17. We had so much fun and a spectacular sex life. I say it doesn't count because my DH went and died on me. Inconsiderate bugger. Had he not died I can't imagine we'd ever have split up. He was a lovely, lovely man.

It runs in the family. My DPs have been married over 50 years and both my DBs over 20. Marriage is a skill. If you're lucky you learn it off your parents.

We are after 22 years and three dcs. Happier than ever and having loads of amazing sex too.

I love and fancy him more than ever, he's my best friend, takes care of me better than anyone ever has and is the best father I could wish for. I often tell him I can't believe my luck.

Yes. Eight years now and still completely in love with him.
He is kind, calm, even-tempered and generous. I am very lucky.

Married 21 years and very happy. We're really nice to each other. DH was proper guffawy laughing at a story I was telling him yesterday and it made me feel so valued!
And this morning we were both up at 5 because he was travelling for work. I made us tea and found his wallet and he sent me back to bed and later texted me to say thank you, hope you got back to sleep.
It must be awful to not want to look after each other. I advise my dcs to choose very very carefully, and that there's no such thing as a failed relationship.

Good marriages are about making the right choices and making sure that your truly compatible and that he ticks most boxes. I think sometimes it's easy to overlook major flaws if the sex is great in the early relationship and before you know it you've got kids and he's a dick who won't pull his weight. Me and DH were at university together build our careers and had kids and have achieved a very nice lifestyle because were equals and supportive of each other

Yes, we've been together 17 years and are very happily married. He's still my favourite person in the world.

My dp is my best friend (he has been for 15 years, although we're just coming up to two years together) and soulmate.

We do have problems from my exh (abusive narc) but our relationship is wonderful aside from that. Dd adores him, we definitely plan on marrying when the exh has calmed down lol

Yes. 7 years in. We bring out the best in each other.

34 years and 2 children. I'm married to my best friend.

Yeah, happy relationships are no unicorns, but you don't hear about as often because ... why share with the world you are happy and jinx it?

Married 27 years and very happy emotionally and physically. Things were harder when the children were young, lack of money, time a nd energy but have always been on the same side. We are empty nesters now and it is l k a second honeymoon period.

... More miffed after reading this than I first realised..... quite a bit lacking in my r/s

Yep 8 years in and my DP is the best person I know :)

We met when I was 17 so we've kind of grown into adulthood together. He makes me laugh everyday, I never go to sleep without being told I'm loved and in 8 years we've never had an argument.

People don't believe that when I tell them or they say it's because we don't communicate, but that's not the case, we just get along! We also know life's too short for drama, so we dont sweat the small stuff :)

Great thread OP, there are so many posts on here about problem partners from hell. I actually think there are probably a lot more happy relationships than sad ones but nobody posts when they don't have a problem.

I've been married for 26 years. I listened to my heart AND my head when I married my DH. He is a lovely, kind man and I don't think he has said a single mean thing to me ever. And he is the best dad in the world to our kids. I don't think I'd ever have said yes, if he wasn't any of the above things. We are best friends, share everything and are totally 100 percent a team. We don't have sex all the time, it is not the most important thing in our marriage but we are very close and hold hands when we are out shopping and still share the same sofa to watch telly so it's all good We still have lots of hopes and dreams (nice cruise ) and look forward to the day when our kids are all settled and we can sail off into the sunset together.

23 years on and things continue to improve every year as we grow together. Being honest though, I'm sad because his snoring has meant seperate rooms and we are too young for that as it's affected our sex life. He's taking steps to try to address this (because I had had enough and was blunt with him) so I'm hoping that will change.

15 years here and very happy

Second marriage, 10 years in. Absolutely wonderfully happy and in love.
The secret is being kind to each other, I think. Seeking to do things that lighten the load for each other. Also, having a laugh every day!

Oh....and my parents were together for 50 years (until parted by death) and they were so happy. My mother was always given a little kiss and addressed as 'my Darling'.

5 years together, 5 kids between us, moved in ridiculously quickly but it works. I still get butterflies when he comes home from work, and we're very affectionate. Don't get me wrong, we drive each other nuts sometimes, but on the tough days, that's when you work on things, how you speak to each other, the tone you use, the reason you're together.

Yes, nearly 9yrs and 2 DC.

We hardly ever argue despite being together 24/7. He is now my carer even though he has a chronic illness himself.

If he pops out to the shops etc I still get butterflies in my tummy knowing I'm about to see him.

Our life together has been far from easy, we have survived pretty much everything from severe money issues to the death of a close family member but we have come through the other side.

He is my rock, my best friend and I would be truly lost without him.