Is there anyone in a happy relationship?

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Sorry I am in a happy relationship for the first time in my life I have found someone I love, respect and like as a person! I also trust him which I have never trusted anyone before.

We are moving in together in the next couple of months and I am very happy and looking forward to the future.

What I'm wondering is there anyone still happy and in love with a healthy sex life many years on after the relationship has started?

On mumsnet in the relationships section there is mostly people unhappy in their relationships, I guess that because the people that are happy are don't have any problems to post about.

But it seems to me most couples I know are quite unhappy bar a few and I would love to hear stories about others that are happy in their long term relationships

Almost 18 years together and married almost 12. 2 DC's. I'd say we're very happy. We do argue but most of all we laugh together. He's my best friend. My parents met at 15. They will be 70 next year and still together.

Yes, together 15 married 8, we drive each other bits on occasion but get on really well, support each other and have a happy home life. Saying I love you, laughing together, compromise and being kind to each other help.

Married for 24 years, very happily. Known each other for 26. I'd echo Pallisers' post. We both chose with heart and head. My parents never had a happy marriage that I can recall. I purposely chose someone very different from my father. We have 3 DC and, unlike me, they are secure in the knowledge that both parents love each other and the DC completely. We most definitely have each other's back. I know I can rely on him completely and vice versa.

I remember a few years ago my SIL (DH's sister) disparaged DH, making some remark about her DH being a great father, unlike DH. I told her DH is a great father because he supports our DC however he can, even when he doesn't want to or enjoy it. That's very like our relationship. We do things we don't enjoy in order to support the other eg I love stationery and DH will come with me to distant shops, just so I can experience items in the flesh rather than online. I have absolutely no interest in superheroes, but will look out for news about them and new things to buy. Both our philosophy is, say yes to your spouse's wishes wherever possible, rather than no.

We've been together nearly 20 years and I can't imagine life without him. We just get on really really well 90% of the time. We have similar goals and aspirations, we bicker every so often but it's very rare. He's my best friend and completes my life, I just adore him. Our relationship is very equal and respectful and we have never disagreed on anything fundamental or anything to do with the children. We enjoy spending time together and never run out of things to say to each other. Our sex life has its ups and downs, currently on an up but we work through it and it's not how we express our love.

Met aged 20 - 35 years ago. Married 30 years. We're a partnership, in every sense of the word. Never stop talking, we will sit at the kitchen table after work very evening. We solve a lot of problems that way. Now the kids are grown up, we are entering a new phase, more freedom, doing the things we want to do. It's fun.

I can honestly say that we're pretty happy too.
Been together 13 yrs, married for 9. No kids and lots of ups and downs and heartache for us both, but I'm so grateful for him. He's not perfect and neither am I but we manage to laugh lots and we are the annoying couple who often say exactly the same thing at the same time vom.
He really is my bestie and he's rather good in the sack - a bit more sex, more often would be awesome but the main issue is that we're both bloody exhausted. We do have a snog and cuddle before we go to sleep most nights.

I've loved reading these. I've been married & divorced twice & find it hard to understand what makes a successful relationship.
You've all just restored my faith!!

Toocleverbyhalf2 I'm divorced too, horrible husband, horrible marriage and I'd given up until I met DP

Echo a lot of the posters on here saying you need to go into marriage with no ifs and no buts. It won't work if you are marrying somone who is nice to you most of the time because the times he isn't nice won't stop once you are married - they will just multiply.

We've been married for 26 years and together for nearly 30 and I married my best friend. Both of us have parents who had long and happy marriages so we had good positive experience of marriage before we tied the knot ourselves. No divorces anywhere in either of our immediate families - I think our parents relationships have been a great example for us in what makes a marriage work and is without doubt significant in our relationship.

Yes, together 18 years, lived together for 15, married for 7. Very happy for you OP, long may it continue

My DH is a lovely kind man. He isn't an alcoholic or an addict; he isn't moody or bad tempered and he keeps calm in a crisis. He's happy to enjoy and be interested in anything on offer and gets on with just about everybody.
I'm very lucky.

Yes we are 😊. Together for 18 years, married for 13. Dh is my best friend, we respect, love and like each other very much. We both love spending time together even all this years later.m

A lovely thread that's made me feel all gooey! Only been married for 3 years but hoping it will go the distance. DH is kind, caring and funny. Feeling lucky.

15 years, very happy, we kiss every day.

Not married but been totally devoted.

We've had bad times but stayed together, it's made us stronger.

My philosophy if you both love each other is, never give up on each other!

I'd love to know what % of people are in a truly happy relationship - I'd say less than half

12 years and 5 kids later we are x

23 years and we are on each others team first and foremost ..

Only 2 years in so far but yes...incredibly happy I've truly felt love for him since the day I met him. I've never laughed so much with anyone before, totally on the same wavelength, moral compasses aligned, it's just perfect (off to find a bucket lol)...

Together many years, married for more than 20 years, 2 children and still happy together.

Yes. 8 years together but we've had our struggles but this year we've been in a great place and I can't wait to be home with him every day

These answers are lovely.

But if I'd been asked this two years ago I'd have said the same.

It was false. He had an affair.

Voice of doom....who knows really if your relationship is happy...

Ha misswill I was just thinking the same. Three years ago I was blissfully happy married to my narcissist ex (but I pandered to him). Then he decided it was a bit boring, made my life hell, was so very cruel to me, I had a breakdown and he subsequently blamed me for the split.
I don't think I will ever be able to love anyone like I loved him (16 years married). I would like to believe that I may find companionship in the future though.

Yes. Met, broke up after a year, missed each other constantly, got back together 2 years later. Been back together 5 years now, married for 2. We were both just a bit too young first time round and each had a bit of independent growing up to do. He is the love of my life. We complement each other brilliantly, he makes me laugh all the time, there are so many things i love about him. And he is such a good person - truly one of the best people I've ever known. We still have loads to talk about. And I know he feels the same about me - he'd do anything for me. I trust him with my life. 2 amazing, beautiful children (4 and 4 months) and it all just keeps getting better. We have the most wonderful life.
Will stop being mushy now! And sorry to the posters who've been let down by people they loved

18 years together. Work together , live together , laugh pretty much constantly together . Great sex life . We don't argue a huge amount . He's my best friend and pretty gorgeous too !!

We've been together for 10 married for 8 years. We rarely argue and have a pretty good sex life.
I know when to pick my battles and she knows how to massage my ego.