Phone passwords

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My boyfriends phone is password protected, and I have no idea what the code is. I absolutely hate it. He also won't give it me, accusing me of snooping and saying I should trust him.

I am curious of what other peoples relationships are like do you know your partners passwords etc?

I have been married for decades and both my H and I gave passwords on our phones. Neither of us have anything to hide.

His phone is his business. Myself and DP have our own phones. Both thumb print protected. We do know each other's pass numbers but we're not nosy so would never access each other's phones. And if he asked I'd tell him to fuck off and mind his own business.

I know my husbands passcode and he knows mine, however we never or rarely look at or through each other's phones unless it's to get a number out or to look at a picture or something. It's called TRUST

We know each other's codes but neither of us have snooped, well I certainly haven't.

I'm very protective of my phone.
wouldn't want dh to read my mn posts
so is he. we both have passwords on our phones.

It's not that I want to snoop it's just bugging me because I used to know it months ago, and now I don't. I just didn't really see the problem with me knowing it and didn't have a problem with him knowing mine. But when it was mentioned it all got turned on me wanting to be nosey and him not wanting to give it me.

My husband and I have known each other's phone pin codes since we were only in a relationship. Then when we got phones with Touch ID, we put each other's fingerprints on as well.
Also we've known each other's bank card PIN numbers, and all online banking passwords.
We have nothing to hide and trust each other completely.

I couldn't tell you my DH's phone password, laptop password or any other password apart from those he uses for his email because they happen to be the same as those he used to use for something else He has been told mine for a couple of things but he's never remember the whole thing. Why would we need to know each other's phone passwords? If he needs to use my phone he can just ask.

We don't feel the need to look, but it's the thing of 'I've got nothing to hide, here's my code to prove it'.
It does depend on how long you've been together though

If he is defensive about his phone that's different. I don't care about my DH going on my phone but I would care if he demanded my password. And I don't want his password but I would care if he refused to give it to me when I happened to need to use his phone.

I already struggle with my phone, iPod and work phone pass codes, I don't want to remember my husband's as well! He may have Touch ID, I don't know. If I did need to use his I would ask but we both have smartphones so there's nothing I would need to do on his.

I'm open about mine but I know he can't remember it.

I know his, occasionally I'll use it, say if he's driving and I want to look something up & my phone is out of juice. So, not often but it is definitely not a secret.

I'm not sure if I know my DH's password, I could probably have a good guess if I wanted to.

I don't think he knows my password but I have nothing to hide.

I used to know it months ago and now I don't

So You've tried to get into his phone?

I can't imagine being happy to give my password to a boyfriend unless we were in a totally committed relationship, probably living together.
I have nothing to hide. I just like some things private and tbh, my phone is probably the one thing that has the most private stuff on it that is within easy reach and very accessible.
How long have you been together?
Are you living together?

He leaves his phone lying about, but I've noticed he's turned off the notification option on the iPhone setting, so that no texts etc would show up on the front screen. So his phone could be sat there going off but nothing would show up. he said it's because people at work try and nose at his texts which at first I thought was fair enough.

We have been together 3 years, live together and have a 2 year old.

Stbxh randomly put his password on his phone and refused to tell me the code... the major detail there is that I didn't ask for it!
But he wanted mine. He badgered and badgered. I gave him my code, he still refused saying I should trust him.... he is a soon to be ex husband!

It never occurred to me to need/ want his code until then. If you knew the code once and he has changed it I would expect to know it again. Otherwise he's hiding something

I used to know it because we both had the same password

We have each other's codes and will use whichever phone is to hand if we're wanting to google something or take a picture.
DH will often say to me "read that message from mutual friend and let me know what you think" and vice versa. A lot of our friends are mutual friends though.
We also tend to use each other's email - our letting agency only deal with DH for some reason so if we need anything I will log onto his emails and email them as him.
Only time an secrecy is implemented is around Christmas or birthdays so we don't accidentally ruin present surprises.

So how do you know it's changed?

Because you tried to have a sneaky check of his phone?

Massive red flags for me.

Why his phone so readily accessible to his work colleagues? What does h do for a living?

Personally - I don't buy it. To change your passcode and turn off notifications is cos he doesn't want you to see his incoming messages.

We've known each other's since early days of dating, just happened naturally E.g. He was driving and wanted me to check an address that was on his phone, or his was out of battery so he used mine to google, that sort of thing.

I'd find it odd if he didn't want me to know it, but then other than in a situation like above I've no reason to look at his phone anyway.

What do you think is going on in your heart of hearts? Is he just a private person in which case fine, you don't NEED his code anyway, or is the change likely to mean something more sinister - in which case he's probably doing other things that get your spidey senses tingling.

We both have thumbprint locks on our phones but know each others pin codes - if one of us needs to read a text because the other is driving or cooking or whatever we can do that. I wouldn't want to go through his phone and he wouldn't go through mine though - neither of us have anything to hide but trust each other. I am a bit surprised that people tend to keep their passwords secret though - don't you ever need to use the other person's phone?

I wouldn't be too impressed if DH suddenly turned off notifications and changed his password.