DRY 16

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If you're quitting alcohol for a brighter sober future come and join us here. A very welcoming bunch supporting each other every step of the way.

Link to Dry 15

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2726334-Dry-15?msgid=65047780#65047780

yes and yet when awake it's sooooo far from happening. weird.

Thank you user you are right about Christmas being one day.... We will be staying abroad with my parents for 2 weeks which is what I'm worried about, they are very big drinkers and love a party..... So there will be alcohol flowing extremely freely. And they won't understand my not drinking. Oh well... I guess no point worrying about it now. I just don't want to spend another holiday mostly recovering from the night before and hiding under the duvet when my kids want to go to the beach... I'll try and hang on to that idea :-)

captain I was away on holiday for 2 weeks in September and because I was up by 8am every day, instead of sleeping off a hangover until at least 11am (sometimes later) I realised that I had gained at least 42 hours of "conscious" life.
Nearly two extra days!!! Sobriety is so f**ng cool

Hate to harp on captain but two weeks is just 14 days - each one, one at a time!!!

Last night i bit into a dancy cake DH had brought home- it was soaked in rum and i hadnt realused. Spat it straight in the bin! Yuck. The thought of alcohol is quite revolting now.
Christmas day will involve belvoir ginger mulled juice and schloer in a champagne flute. Quite happy with that ☺

captainladder I gave up drinking on holiday. Sober holidays are awesome especially if you love a long swim every morning like me. Enjoy!

Can I report the first decent night's sleep in my 15 days nicotine and alcohol free life? Hurray!! Normally I can't get to sleep or wake ridiculously early, or just wake up constantly. Last night was approx 6 hours all in one go! From 11.30pm to 5.30am. Being really busy, riding my bike to and from work, eating nuritious food in large quantities helped.
I am just NOT putting myself through this again. Works do on Friday evening. big deal. Saturday is the Christmas Markets gluwein challenge. big deal.

hurricane hi hope your well? Remind me of your sober anniversary? Is it 28 Dec? I'm 1 Jan.
I haven't been on the thread for a while but it seems all the oldies are either quiet or no longer around?
I can't believe our 1 year sober anniversary is coming up - I can barely believe it

Miss cookie if that's a stealth boast you don't need to be stealthy about it - shout it from the rooftops!!!!! Brilliant that you are a almost a year sober, you would hardly think about drinking again now would you?

I was at yoga again last night and they do a relaxation thing after. - I find that brilliant and it really aids a good nights sleep

misscookie thats amazing :)

love the idea of gaining conscious life...hurricane and of sobriety being so f*ing cool. I can buy that totally.

gottalove.. and user... thank you for the encouragement and its only one moment at a time.
nottoday that sleep sounds amazing! and so does your attitude towards your works and gluwein challenge.

I've been reading that jason whatsits book on quit drink easily, which i'm enjoying, he makes it sound so simple.... I love the idea of modeling sober behaviour = fun times for my kids. I imagine they will drink in the future but I want them to have the option of knowing that alcohol is not what makes a good time.

I'm still here - done a couple of name changes but still koko :)

Misscookie yes you're right!! My anniversary is 28th December as is my sober twin's Absolutebeginner!!
Oh and I don't do stealth boasting, I do full on "bells and whistles, shout it out as loud as you can boasting" because we are all blinking awesome!!
I'm so proud of myself, I really am. My life is the same but different if that's possible. So much more joy and happiness.
I've done loads of sober firsts, holidays, hen do's, NYE 2015. I've had so much of a better time at all of them, so much fun and laughter.....and no falling over, off chairs, off tables or down stairs. (Not a good look for a 50 year old)
I'll be honest, it's not a magic wand because whilst you feel the joy and happiness much more, you may also feel the downs more. You know, those curveballs that life throws every now and again???? because alcohol numbs EVERYTHING. However, my anxiety has completely gone. Completely disappeared, so you cope and deal with everything that comes your way

misscookie, wow a whole year almost, that's incredible and thank you for your honest update of how it has been, that was really useful

Likea I can't believe you are coming up for a year too - I have followed you for some time and am wondering where the year has gone!

Nottoday - great that you have had a good nights sleep, that really helps keep your resolve!

Well I have had an interesting day, a very old friend rang and invited me to something that normally I would say no to. I won't go into the whys and wherefores of why but a lot of my reasons would be a result of booze in some way, either would be too hungover to go up, can't be arsed, eating into a boozy evening on the sofa etc plus more recently I can't face seeing people who I haven't seen for a long time as I have looked so bloody awful but I didn't say no I said YES! I told her that I was off the booze and could she make sure the venue had some becks blue in and all she said was "good for you" I have known her a long time, she knows I drank too much! Yes I am heavier than I want to me but I do look a hell of a lot better than I did 84 days ago so what the heck!

Lou here is my first post from 30 December 2015 .... I lurked and read the threads for a couple of days before I plucked up the courage to post
It honestly feels like yesterday in some respects and not in others, as so much has happened since.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2536113-DRY-10?pg=2

user no stealth boast - I posted earlier about how my year has been. When I reach 1 year I'll be shouting it from the rooftops..

I had a sober twin on here though and I can't remember who it was. Whose first day sober was 1 Jan 2016?

I'm struggling - I feel like I'm going to pick up a drink. Ive found an AA group on tonight - I need to get out of the house - wish me luck

knackered good luck, but you aren't out yet, break it down to smaller time frames 15mins at a time if needs be.

The first drink you take will be the one that gets you drunk, so don't take it!!!!

Do a look on YouTube for an AA share and start listening.....all of these should help with the craving.

DO ANYTHING ELSE WHATSOEVER. JUST DON'T DO THAT.
Torture kittens. Shout at a complete stranger. Anything but that.

Breathe and relax knackered. Go outside anywhere. Jump up and down on the spot. Try to leave the kittens alone.

Knackered.... it's the Wine Witch trying it on, you have to starve her. Do not feed her.
The psychological addiction will take a little while to get over, but as you have said yourself, the feeling when you wake up feeling fresh..it makes everything worth it.
Yes, you feel uncomfortable but you will feel a lot worse if you drink.
This is a little test/hurdle and I'm willing you on and doing my best to mentally push you over it.
You can do this.
Somebody said on a thread at the beginning of the year that relapse is like having sex with a 500lb gorilla....you don't get to choose when it stops.
But you can choose right now, not to drink tonight.
Good luck sweetheart xx

Let us know what's going on for you knackered. Rooting for you.

Am back and safe. I don't know what happened today but the cravings have been overwhelming all day. And gradually getting worse. I went to a meeting and people were really nice. There was chocolate and I cried and complained whilst bleating "but I do feel better in a lot of ways - but I want it all to go away..."

I got overwhelmed today because I want all my life to come right at once, and the things I used to avoid through drinking, I now have to face up to.

It wasn't a big group, and I met some nice women - I ve got 3 phone numbers and a welcome pack. I feel safer now - the fear has lessened. Thank you so much for responding and for the virtual handhold

Knackered46 I need to know where this meeting is, they never have Choclate at the ones I go to!!!!!

At the end of the meeting they would have read the promises, really listen to them the next time you go, they do come true!

Well done for taking the steps to get there - hopefully no kittens were harmed in the process!!!

knackered you have incredible strength. Well done, I'm really happy for you. Be proud of yourself.

Good news knackered.