Posted before but in a very tight nutshell, I just don't love DH any more. Have grown apart over many years of him neglecting me on most levels. He is a good guy but hopeless at being a husband, he has no passion for anything and is basically just the kind of person who lets life pass him by. I can't handle it anymore and have felt like I've been dying a little more every day over the past two years. I am naturally more of a firecracker I suppose!
He has now asked if we can try counselling together. I don't know what to say because I really feel like I can't be convinced to love him again (and if I'm really honest, I don't think I ever really loved him - more found him wonderfully reliable and honest and mistook that respect for love i guess..?). We have two young dds so lots to fight for, but I don't know whether to put him and myself through it if it's ultimately a waste of time and money.
Of course if it works, brilliant! It'd be perfect if we could be happy again, as I don't want to break up our family. But I won't raise my daughters in this kind of setup as it stands, and he deserves to find someone who does love him.
So I'd be so interested to hear your stories of counselling, especially if your situation is similar to mine.
Thank you 