Kicked daughter out... I don't even feel bad...

[Nance60]

My daughter is of age btw to be removed from the family. She isn't at risk. Staying with a family member I believe. I want to feel bad, I just don't. I said some horrible things but she has seriously caused some major problems to this family and I just couldn't take it anymore.

We aren't talking. It was left on very bad terms.

She wishes me dead, says my dead sister is better off dead so she doesn't have to be around me, and the other stuff I said.

Soubriquet don't start on OP when you do not know the full facts.
Of course it would help if we had some facts....but we dont. so in the meantime let's not start putting the boot in
Your post is nastier than Sou's

What do you want us to say?

demented - that's irrelevant.

Because she doesn't help around the house

What you have described OP is normal teenage behaviour. It's our job to help them develop, to grow into competant adults. Maybe supporting them a bit and understanding why they act as they do. The college thing, could you not help her? Why has she dropped out? Is she struggling with the work? Is she depressed? Does she think the grass is greener? These are all things you can help her with.

I don't know I was just posting to get my head around things

Normal teenage behaviour

So lazing around the house and wanting to do absolutely nothing with your life is normal now is it? Not in my books. Shes a fully grown adult.

I hope you're ok OP.. I sympathise. Hopefully this will be the boot up the backside she needs!

I can sympathise.
Our son was causing problems in the house and generally being horrendous to live with a couple of years ago. He'd just turned 18 and was studying for his A levels. There were times when he packed a bag and stayed at his girlfriend's house and, as much as I hate to say it, it was actually a relief when he did so. I worried, of course I did, but life was so very much easier without him and his attitude in the house.

Just for the record, he dumped the girlfriend earlier this year and it seems that she was the root of the problems, he's now back to being the lovely lad he was before he met her.

I'm not sure I could sleep not knowing she was safe somewhere......however potty her mouth may be!
Hope you resolve your differences and can move on from this.

Under 18 is NOT adult.

She will be 18 this month fgs.

At 16 she can legally move out, get a job, have children, get married north of the border. Hardly a child is she? I really do despair at this site sometimes, it's like a parallel universe.

I did retaliate with the words and I get that was wrong. She wasn't even trying she literally wasn't doing anything. I admit she had anorexia when she was 13 and I do keep thinking about that and wondering if that makes her more vulnerable but I feel like it shouldn't now and I can't sit and let her off everything because of that

i could have written this. i empathise, exactly the same scenario here.

She'll be 18 in 2 weeks

So lazing around the house and wanting to do absolutely nothing with your life is normal now is it? Not in my books. Shes a fully grown adult.

You think those things are honestly worthy of kicking someone out?

Yes me too. I kicked my 17 year old son out.

Couple of these threads now where parents seem almost proud to say how much they cannot bear their daughters, whilst taking no responsibility themselves, as to why their child has ended up this way.

Is it possible she has depression?

Oh dear.

I think you've made a mistake and you know it.

You're the adult, the parent. It's really not about your hurt feelings, it's about your rejecting a child who's shown herself to be mentally fragile.

I really hope you can find an adult to be responsible for her if you can't. At least let her know you love her.

At 16 she can legally move out, get a job, have children, get married north of the border. Hardly a child is she? I really do despair at this site sometimes, it's like a parallel universe.

16/18 is too young to be floating around the world alone with nobody aware of where she is. Especially in this economy.

What sane person would consider that situation to be fine?

There's something very odd about OP's tone.

It's very sad - I think you need to get some professional help on how to cope with this

Like Sleepybunny said, please leave the door open - in both senses

At 16 she can legally move out, get a job, have children, get married north of the border. Hardly a child is she? I really do despair at this site sometimes, it's like a parallel universe.

You could, yes. But it would hardly be very sensible or advisable, would it?

We need her side of things. Not accusing you of anything, OP, but my father was always on about how awful I was at 17 and never a word about his own abusiveness and toxicity.